Guy is from very traditional family, I am not

[Reha]

Re: Guy is from very traditional family, I am not

@pollianna

This is really wonderful advice, thank you. I’m expecting to be able to work everything out before marriage, when it is just as you say: you learn so much about each other after marriage.

My current dilemma is how to balance culture and religion. I dont have an emotional attachment to many cultural expectations, and I’ve realized that I don’t know where he stands in this regard.

Sorry, I could not respond in detail earlier.

Everything crucial to your marriage you will learn after you sign the dotted line. My only advice to you is to be as open as possible to change or anything that comes your way. Do your best and leave the rest to Allah.

Post marriage, he might even make mistakes of assuming you know certain things about desi culture you might not…its okay. Life may be confusing at first where you’ll be getting used to each other’s habits…its okay. There will be parts of him that will not make sense since he’s so traditional but we’re all a mixed pot of eastern and western culture…its still okay. Keeping the lines of communication open is about the only thing you can actually do to remedy your concerns.

BUT no matter how concerned you are about the future, you’ll never really know until you’re standing in it. My suggestion is, enjoy the pre-marriage dating period…have fun and make the most out of every stage you’re going through.