I was really appalled at many of the responses from the younger set in the “marrying a gori” thread, and decided that since some of you have apparently never been exposed to goris, that I would write you a handy guide. I don’t have much time now, so I’ll add more later…
1). All goris are not the same. Calling all westerners goris is about as accurate as calling all desis easterners. There are thousands of different cultures amongst westerners, and therefore, you really can’t make any generalizations at all.
2). Educated desi men tend to marry educated gori girls, and uneducated desi men tend to marry uneducated gori girls. As everywhere, there is a difference in the outlooks and behavior between people who are educated and those who are not.
3). Not all goris had sex before marriage. I know many, myself included, who were gasp virgins before marriage.
4). We want to be accepted by our husbands families, and try hard to fit in. Unfortunately, that doesn’t stop people like Hussein87 and mahanoor from being complete a**holes to us and treating us like dirt at various family functions.
5). We don’t have wild orgies and drinking parties. I can find those things in Pakistan just a easily as I can find them here. My husband’s cousin actually tried to take my son to a rave and give him pot the last time we were in Pakistan. Evil exists everywhere.
6). Don’t assume that we’re all sexually liberated and we won’t assumed that you are sexuallly repressed perverts.
amana why are u soo bothered about non muslim goris the stuff i am been saying are about NON muslim goris not the muslim goris i have nothing againts muslim goris as they are sisters to me i have some gori friend who converted into islam and they the best ones i know
soo instead of agreeing wot the non muslim gori doing why are u saying stuff to desi girls accept the fact tht non muslim english girls sleep with many guys b4 marraige than desi girls
and u should be the one supporting ur muslim sis and bro not going and saying stuff tht hurt them just for the NOn mulsim goris
Mahanoor, you are generalizing with a pretty broad brush - not all non-muslim goris are bad, and not all desi muslims are good. You are insulting my family members by assuming that they are a certain way, yet they are far more religious than many desi families I know.
Although I am a muslim, I have been treated much worse by muslim desis than by non-muslim goris. My children, my husband and I have been insulted over and over by ignorant people like you. You know I was once spit on by a desi woman in the UK? There is an article that another convert wrote, about the way that Pakistanis in particular treat white converts, called "I love Islam, but can't stand some muslims."
You are correct, I shouldn't have sworn, but I am only human, and to be honest after dealing with this nonsense for more than a decade and a half, I have had enough of the ignorance.
did i said all goris r the same?? …not all have sex before marriage but most have !!..why r u upset then? isn,t it true ???:o ..and i m not talking about goris who converted to islam cuz that would be a sin but those who r not muslim !!.:halo: .
amana most of the guys here on Life 1 are not even on the doorstep of being 20. they are still thinking what they are told to think. they are over-protected by their ammi jis, and don't know the real world...unless you count what they see on ARY. same might go for some girls.
forget about them. I had the privelege of knowing one of the most amazing Muslimah i met...and she is white. at the same time...some of my really good friends have been white. i forumlate my opinion based on what i see with my own eyes.
desis dont like goris because many times they have ruined the homes of many desi families..and hence are usually seen as home wreckers...by chasing after desi husbands.....some of them would do anything to get him (are desi men more attractive than goras?).....even knowing that he is married. for this reason....the kind of image that most desis have of gori women is not a very good one....and this is the reason you may have experienced what you did.
This thread seems to be about goris having sex before marriage.
I don't know what is worse.....having sex before marriage and admitting it or doing everything else and hiding it. I'm not proud of it but I have come to know of social lifestyles in Karachi that I have never even heard of here in Toronto. If anyone ever tries to tell me that sex is not the rage amongst desi muslims, I'll show them one uninformed or blind individual.
I will never condone promiscuity....but it disgusts me to see the generalizations. I know more desi girls who have been "involved" with guys prior to marriage than I can sit and count. Most of them are online with them......meeting up against the wishes of their parents....going places with them while they say they are with some girl friends.....living a dual life. This is okay? And sadly, many of these "muslimahs" come from decent families that would die if their social circle found out about it. Most of these women take their families to the utter brink of destruction, socially and emotionally. This is okay? If the guy they are "seeing" is desi, their story turns into the standard bollywood "zalim zamana dushman hai" type of heer ranjha kahani while if the guy is non-desi, it turns into larkay nay behka diya type of scenario. She can do no wrong.
amana i felt like hugging you after reading your posts....really as long as you are satisfied with yourself in your heart and you know you are doing nothing wrong then why do u care what others think of you? just ignore them....no matter what you do you can never change their thinking....this is how God made them....they can't help but always think negative about others....i actually feel sorry for these people....their insecurities make their own life miserable....they are never happy....just ignore them and be thankful that you're not like them :)
…not all have sex before marriage but most have !!..why r u upset then? isn,t it true ???:o ..and i m not talking about goris who converted to islam cuz that would be a sin but those who r not muslim !!.:halo: .
wow you’re talented 
