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^ not really. it's kind of sad.
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Um Impulse, no offense, but you expect people to be online all day long. I actually just saw the replies now, after coming home from my classes. Keep in mind, I’m not sitting at home all day like some people here.
I think Sahar02’s response summarizes what I was meaning. Wanting to be with your spouse and being happy when they come home is all cool, but if that’s ALL you do all day long: wait for the spouse to come home and and think of them every minute of the day, then you might want to pick up some hobby of some sort. Intense obsession about any one person, is never a good thing. (I guess maybe God is an exception to that, but even then someone who can’t stop thinking about religion all day long might have some issues as well).
Now if it was meant metaphorically, that when hubby comes home is the highlight of your day, I can understand. But I sure hope that’s not what anyone thinks about ALL DAY LONG and that too daily.
I personally feel that women in general really should have some sort of focus or activity they’re engaged in outside of pleasing their husbands. It just makes you a healthier person.
Don’t think I’m immune to obsessions though. In fact, I practice what I preach. I’ve had experiences with being too obsessed with things and not being able to focus on other important things in my life (like for example, a horrible GS addiction not too long ago). Any kind of a strong addiction is never good.
Secondly, it sounds like many of the people replying here who are married are newly weds. I don’t really need to be married myself or unmarried to know logically that the excitement eventually wears off. Most people get used to their spouse. Its like, when your dad comes home, you’re not jumping off the ceiling. You get acclimated to the spouse, and even sometimes sexually/emotionally tired of them. Most older married couples I know don’t sit there and pine away for their spouses all day long either. I’m engaged, and neither my fiance nor I sit there and pine away every day until our next meeting. Sure we think about each other, but we also give attention to other things in our life. I believe that is what I meant. Healthy balance, right?
Jaan Levaa: I’ve never owned a webcam, and I still do not. So, don’t have a clue what you mean, but whatever it was, it sounded pretty crude. 
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PCG....I have a balance of things in my life....I mean a have a good career...will insha-allah get an excellent job too....I hang out with friends.....been head of societies/groups.....helped many charity/fundraising events...I did alot of other stuff......but I can give any of that up for my husband any day (not that he will ever tell me to). in fact people often say to me that for my age....I have achieved ALOT in life...
my point is that he is the most important part of my life....even though I have everything in my life (thanks to Allah)....but my husband will be the most important for me....and being with him would be the best part of my day....there is no doubt about that.
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I want to speak with you on this topic in 10 years.
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This thread proves that all good girls are married with children. Abay mere leye tu kuch to choor diya hota Zalimooo!!! 
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in ur opinion who are the good girls?
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PCG, you’re obviously a child. Where do you get off trying to sound like you know everything. In any sane person’s mind, one who has had both experiences, marriage and being single, that person would be better equipped to talk about married life vs. single life etc. You’re single, obviously, until you’re married or even in a committed relationship, you have no business even TRYING to talk about those things.
Jub baDay baat kar rahaiN hoN, chotay bachoN ko taang nahiN aDaani chaahiyay
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^ she said she is engaged...
so how do single ppl spend their day off gupshup?
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If the highlight of a woman's day is when her husband comes home, I find that refreshing. Contrary to what you believe, there are people in this world who find family/love/relationships more important than being a die hard/feminist, which I'm afraid to say, you sound like.
The highlight of my day is certainly when my wife comes home from work. The best times I have are with my wife. Just because one loves their spouse and likes spending time with them doesn't make them weak or pathetic in any way. You have your choices, others have theirs. As long as they're happy, what is your problem? I find it incredibly offensive what you said about being disturbed, you're suggesting that anyone who doesn't live up to YOUR standards is sub par in some way. You need to do some serious growing up little girl.
D A M N
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aahmed, I'm tolerating your bakhwaas quite a bit. I think YOU are the one who needs to calm down.
My 10 years request was aimed at Impulse, not you.
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Okay the idea behind this thread was firstly to ask the question from the MARRIED ladies. Secondly, there is no need to get on each other's throats, it was just a simple question as to how the married guppans spend their daily routines. Baas.
Enough already.
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I have a small baby to take care of bordness doesnt really exist in my dictionary.
Up to two months ago, I didnt have time to turn on the net/Computer.
Its was feeding/diapers/bad/cloths changes and all over again.
Yes I was bored from I left my work, 2 months before the the birth of my baby and till the birth after that I didnt have time to be bored.
And if I have nothing to do, which is very rare, I surf the net/ read newspapers, magazines, clean the place, go out for a walk, go to my parents, talk on the phone. I have been doing some studies also. Go out do all the paper/bank work, shop or visit some friends.
I will start work insahallah next year, so my life will be busy like before again.
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As about highlight of the day when husband comes home, sorry but this sounds so typical pakistan to me, when the wives, talk/gossip on their background with their neighbors and when its time for their hubs to come, dress up and act all nice.
I mean its nice to have the return of the hubs as highlight, but that shouldnt be the O N L Y hightlight for us girls.
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I am at home for the summer holidays with my son...I do all the usual stuff like cooking cleaning etc...but its not time consuming at all...i spend time with son playing, reading with him, watching kids tvo with him..etc. I also do surfing, reading etc and i also do my abbu's office work because he's away on vacation. I stay at home during the day unless i really have to go out because i have sensitivity to sun.. I usually go out in the evening with my son and husband...but this will all change once come september.
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My 10 years request was aimed at Impulse, not you.
aahmed is right....Id rather take married peoples advice than yours....my sisters been married 14/15 years.....i think thats about longer than your 10 year test....and she still feels the same way....there is still alot of love between them....i also know of many other couples who feel this way.....and some married people have also replied in this thread too....so what they say holds more value to me :)
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is everyone in this thread on their period or something?
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guys dont have periods:rolleyes:
are you on ur periods?
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By all means, Impulse, I'm not telling you to do anything. Just passing comment on ladies who have no other interest in life except husband.
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I have seen far too many lonely desi wives who feel that they don't know what to do with themselves after the kids are grown up. Actually it's not just desi wives. Women who are naturally self-sacrificing and devote their entire lives to their families also tend to cling to them even when the kids are no longer little and no longer need the same constant attention. It's important to have something of your own. A sense of purpose that is not entirely dependent on someone else.