Originally Posted by PyariCgudia
*The highlight of the day is your husband coming home from work...?
This thread disturbs me.*
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you know pcg, the highlight of my day is when my husband comes home (or when I come home and he's home). It doesn't matter if i'm doing nothing (as in over summer) or if i'm working and going to school. . . when it comes down to it, seeing him, being with him. . . yeah i'd say thats the highlight of my day. Doesn't mean i don't do anything else but i doubt that i can find something else that would make me as happy as when i see him. I'm also certain that the highlight of his day is coming home and seeing me or when i get home (when i'm in school/work) . . . so it's all good.
I think getting excited when one's partner is home - is generally true for the first 1 to 3 years. Soon all the topics would have been discussed and the novelity of marriage wears out.
Girls, sitting home with babies or kids, makes them feel that their education (dreams) are being wasted, and routine sets in. That is boring.
I would strongly suggest, try starting a business from home or take up a part time job. That will give you something more to do with life.
Errmmm i dont think PCG is against the concept of being happy to your spouse at the end of the day. What she is probably thinking is that how come housewives dont have any exciting thing going on other than welcoming thier husbands at 6.
I can kinda relate to her. If i were stuck at home all day and i had hte whole day to just cook and clean, i would get bored with it. I stayed home a few months after graduation and although it was fun in the begining, i started feeling useless and felt like i wasnt u sing my brain and skills.
There is nothing wrong with someone if they want to stay at home or work. Its their personal choice and to each their own.
I think women have it easy these days......doing a couple of hours of work and chilling out the rest of the day....while their poor husbands are working hard for 8 hours or more a day. If they are still not happy then what can I say.
Sweetheart, what disturbs me is your complete lack of tolerance for other people's opinions/lifestyles. Look, I'm all for women's rights and am always of the opinion that if a woman wants to work, she has every right to. But the flip side is that if a woman wants to stay home and be a home maker, which in my opinion is a much harder job than say what I do, then she has the right to do that as well.
If the highlight of a woman's day is when her husband comes home, I find that refreshing. Contrary to what you believe, there are people in this world who find family/love/relationships more important than being a die hard/feminist, which I'm afraid to say, you sound like.
The highlight of my day is certainly when my wife comes home from work. The best times I have are with my wife. Just because one loves their spouse and likes spending time with them doesn't make them weak or pathetic in any way. You have your choices, others have theirs. As long as they're happy, what is your problem? I find it incredibly offensive what you said about being disturbed, you're suggesting that anyone who doesn't live up to YOUR standards is sub par in some way. You need to do some serious growing up little girl.
:) I am sure there are some housewives whose husbands stay at home all day or they work from their homes. Do they look forward to seeing him getting the hell out of the house or what? And if he does get out of the house Would that be the most exciting part of the day for them??? just curious!!!!!:)
I think it's great if the highlight of your day is seeing your spouse. It's how I am too.
However, I think it's problematic if you spend the day pining away for the spouse. It's nice for wives to have a purpose, to feel productive, when the spouse isn't around. If you're bored, maybe look into volunteering, taking up a hobby, something that gives you the flexibility you need for your family life, but also helps you develop your interests.
A lot of not-for-profit organizations need people who can help organize things, design things, etc. Or you can buy an art set, make paintings, fix up furniture, etc.
i just love watchign my bhabhi get all ready when my brother comes home from work (which is pretty late...at 10pm)...she's all sans makeup throughout the day in her old clothes doing the housework, going shopping, etc...but when the time comes for my brother to come home, she changes into really nice clothes and gets decked out in the makeup .....i know its sawab to look good for ur hubby, but why?? i just dont see the point if ur just going ot stay home and serve him dinner....i wish i could go back to wearing my sweats day in and day out., and looking like crap when the hubby gets home (so he knows how hard ive been working..lol....)....
but i do agree, the best part of the day is when the hubby comes home (even if he heads straight to the computer or to watch tv..lol..)
What is wrong with looking forward to your spouse coming home when you’ve been alone all day?
Not everyone has a burning desire to interact. I may not adhere to this, but I can certainly understand it.
I’ve always been one that can’t sit still for long. TV is fine, but I’m not the type to be into soaps and serials (the last time I watched a pakistani serial drama, and that too only partially, was when Tanhaee’yan was on)…discovery or TLC is good and I’ve been known to cook while watching court tv, but that’s about it during the day.
When I have nothing else to do I will start a craft, sewing or crocheting project…paint some wall in the house…work on gupshup stuff…read a book…cook something I’ve never cooked before…go shopping…etc, etc.
I can’t think of any time that I’ve woken up, done something and gone back to sleep. Ammi had it drilled into my head that this is a sign of “manhoosiyat”, in fact, sleeping anytime during daylight hours is a no-no, so even when I want to, I can’t do it.
I sleep sometimes but not more than 30 minutes. But yeh looking forward to the husband is not a bad idea at all. Its actually a nice feeling. Again, if you are married and wait for adult face-to face time...theres nothing wrong with it.
Lately no matter how late I go to bed, i still end up waking up at 9 AM
I end up taking little naps throughout the day, like 20-30 minutes, but i feel soooo icky wheN i wake up
PCG etc who were “disturbed” when i said the highlight of my day would be when my husband comes home…when I asked you to tell me what the HIGHLIGHT of your day is …you remained quiet…why was that? is the highlight of your day something shameful or do you not having anything to look forward to in your day?
