Re: Guests wearing red to a wedding
You know what, I'll go for it. Bride's not Pakistani anyways, and all of my non-Paki friends tend to think we overdress anyways :D
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Paheli I know what she's wearing, and she's said herself she doesn't care. She's wearing red and gold. I'm not worried about making her upset, she's too easygoing about that.
I just don't feel comfortable I spose. I love the outfit and I don't want it to go to waste, it's just that I never tend to wear red at weddings, haven't done for years.
So the issue here has nothing to do with whether or not we would wear red to someone else's wedding. :) Look, since the bride herself doesn't care....if I were you, I'd wear it. BUT if you yourself don't feel comfortable....then nothing we can say can change that. It is a very heavy outfit and b/c of the gold all over....its not going to be possible to "dress it down". Whether its negative or positive....the outfit will attract attention.
So the only question you need to figure out is whether or not you're ok with getting attention. :)
P.S. It won't go to waste if you listen to your sister and wedding it at your own wedding! ;)
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I'd wear it...... not my fault if others want to dress down or up
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But...but...but..what about my Ubunto Ikazim outfit!!
I did genuinely want to find out whether it's just my lot who kinda don't encourage red at weddings. I think that people tend to just stay away from it, like Kakee said, even at english weddings people might not wear white. I'll just see how I feel on the day, and go with what I feel like wearing!
It just doesn't help that in my family we're just over-thinkers about these things cos fights have happened about this stuff before (no joke, one of my khalas wore her wedding dress to another person's wedding, yikes!)
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yay
pics when you do :O
and I agree Pakistanis overdress @_@
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Why not show your friend the outfit you intend to wear? If she's ok with it, then I guess you can go ahead and wear it. Maybe you could ask her what the norm is in her family (i.e. whether they think red is acceptable to wear to a rukhsati?) I would hate for you to have to listen to other guests comments just because you wore red.
P.S. Nice outfit, mA.
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Well, I have seen couple of bride's friends wearing blood red dresses at wedding day, It depend on you If you want then go ahead, because bride always look different anyways.^_^
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can I ask in a kind of related way, do girls still do that things where if you are unmarried you generally tend to dress down and once you are married you are all blinged out and stuff?
just that my mum taught me that so I'm used to generally dressing down on weddings anyway, and have bought all heavy clothes for after shaadi.
just commenting cus the dress you posted MadHatter would be something I would wear after I'm married, and probably after being newly married, but personally if I was unmarried I wouldn't wear something that heavy
also - if you are worried about outdoing the bride - I think the only way you can look like a bride is by taking the dupatta on your head along with all the jewellery, clothes, etc - as long as you don't have the dupatta setting you should be fine
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^ some people in my family do that, and also with saris- unmarried girls don’t wear them- but i’ve honestly never understood that. why should unmarried girls miss out on all the fun? 
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Unless the bride/brides sister/mum/auntie etc say you're not allowed to wear a certain colour (this happened recently where we were forbidden to wear red on the wedding) you should wear it! It's such q pretty outfit, as the others have said, just dress it down and you're good to go! Maybe wear a golden coloured hijaab to throw off the red a little.
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It's a wedding, everyone will be glammed up and i don't think you can outshine the bride with all the jewelry that she'll have on. At this one wedding the grooms mother made a mustard colored suit for the bride and then she gifted the exact same material to all the girls on the grooms side and told all the other non-family guest that the theme was mustard yellow. The grooms family went to the extreme with kaam, rhinestones, and sparkles and decorated themselves in jewelry. Some of them paid a little over one lakh for their clothes. The wedding was like walking into a sea of yellow and it was really hard to tell which one was the bride. Your situation is nothing like that, so don't fret.
Re: Guests wearing red to a wedding
wear it, keep your jewelry light.
Guests wearing red to a wedding
Pakis tend overdress with the bling bling! Go for it since you already own the dress. I personally do not like saris or very heavy dresses for unmarried girls. A girl looks married in a sari IMO .
Guests wearing red to a wedding
Not wearing the same color as the bride is a gora tradition. A few years back you would see brides wearing their shadi horas to a whole bunch of weddings. St least they got use out of them. This is honestly a western tradition. A bride is a bride .
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Wear it! I used to think it was taboo too, but I've seen girls wear red to weddings and it's barely noticeable. They don't stand out and it doesn't compete with the bride at all. If you're conscious ths time, take notice for the next few weddings you go to. I once went to a wedding where the bride's cousin's wife (of 3yrs) wore her Valima outfit (green) w tikka and dupatta on her head! Now that is rude... It looked so bad even my bro and husband were talking abt it and they never notice any of those things!
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A girl looks married in a sari IMO .
that's all it takes to look married? well then.
Guests wearing red to a wedding
Wear it and look ravishing in red!
Bride is a bride! :)
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no harm in wearing red unless you are a close relative (sister/sil) or wearing your bridal red dress with teeka,jhoomer and a dupatta on your head 
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Go ahead and wear it Maddy!
You wanna be dulhan you 
j/k j/k.. maybe
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i will be honest. your outfit is beautiful but too blingy. If the bride is wearing red, you perhaps should re-consider. It is her day, not yours. I would never suggest against wearing red if your dress was less blingy and less dulhan like. But it is. :)