…especially if the bride might be wearing red? I normally stay away from this colour, but someone from Pakistan bought me a BEAUTIFUL red outfit with work all over, and I just don’t know whether I can get away with it. It’s too heavy to wear anywhere except a wedding, but it’s also a little bit bridal-ish because it’s red and gold.
What do you girls say? I have a close friend’s wedding this weekend and I’ve love to wear it…but it’s red 
(I’ll post a pic of the outfit in a minute!)
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I don't like wearing red to weddings either. How about wearing it to a Walima instead? It's less likely a bride will be wearing red on her Walima.
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The thing is, most of my friends are tending to have 1 day events, or I may be invited to the wedding but not the walima? So I want to wear something which stands out, but not like I'm trying to be a bridezilla :(
I've only ever worn red on a mehndi before or otherwise I always go for a deep red which isn't so bridal :(
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i agree wit MissChievous... wear it to the (or any) Walima instead...or any wedding u r sure the bride is not going to be attired in red...:D....
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How heavy is the outfit? Can we see a pic?
Is the bride your friend??
Maybe you could ask her if she would be ok with it if you wore red, then is she says its ok you can go ahead and wear it :)
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This is the outfit I have:
And to be honest, I’ve only been to about 3 weddings in the last 5 years where the bride didn’t wear red (when it’s not red it tends to be gold with accents of red)
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What colour is the bride wearing?
And as much as you don't want to upstage the bride by wearing red, a bride will always look like a bride and be the center of attention. Unless you do the jhoomer, teeka, ghoonghat, people can clearly tell the difference and can appreciate that it's a fancy suit and not a bridal suit.
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It has a deep raw silk kameez underneath with red trousers too. If only it was in navy or deep green or something :(
My friend wouldn't mind me wearing red, she's not like that at all. I just don't think I would feel comfortable looking like some wannabe bride :(
I'm half thinking to sod it and just wear it anyways. Ugh.
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have you asked your friend?
I think its a bit taboo.. even in western weddings nobody wears white except for the bride :P
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I suppose you have a point Sehrysh, I tend to wear hijab with everything so I spose it wouldn't look TOO bridal. Thing is, when the bride tends to have sisters, you don't wanna outbling them, right?
My friend is wearing half gold and half red, so it's pretty much the traditional colours
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dress it down? light makeup - smokey and modern rather then traditional. Small earrings
I honestly wouldnt wear it.
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I have a **close friend's **wedding this weekend and I've love to wear it....but it's red
Since the bride is a close friend of yours....why not just ask her if her outfit is red? And ask her if she'd be ok with you wearing red.
3 weeks after my wedding I attended the wedding of a friend (who was also a guest at my wedding). I really wanted to wear the red/gold sari I wore during my civil ceremony to her Hindu ceremony. But I also knew that her colors wear traditional. I flat out asked her how she felt about me wearing my sari. She told me she didn't care at all and I was more than welcome to wear it.
So yea....if you know the bride personally......the best way to ensure that you don't piss her off is to just ask her. :)
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imho- .. from what can be seen from the picture... it can't be dressed down....so i don't think u should wear it.....
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Paheli I know what she's wearing, and she's said herself she doesn't care. She's wearing red and gold. I'm not worried about making her upset, she's too easygoing about that.
I just don't feel comfortable I spose. I love the outfit and I don't want it to go to waste, it's just that I never tend to wear red at weddings, haven't done for years. If the outfit wasn't so done up in dabka, I think I wouldn't fuss either, it's just very, very heavy and bridal-ish looking :(
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And my sister's just told me to wear it to my own wedding and save myself a coupla grand :(
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then don't wear it..?
nobody is forcing you
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then don't wear it..? nobody is forcing you
I know love. I just wanted some opinions to see if I was being a bit OTT or not. :)
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Here’s the thing, if you know the bride well (you’re good friends) and she’s one of those sensitive types, ask her if it’s okay since your actions will matter to her. You’ve said she doesn’t care, then she probably doesn’t care. Go with it!
If you’re just a guest, then not to be mean, but you don’t rank in the bride’s world and it shouldn’t bother her that you’re wearing a red coloured suit. I stand by the fact that unless it’s a bridal outfit, it’s just a red outfit with gold kaam and people need to relax about the bride and her sisters being outdone or outblinged. I’m not a fan of imposing a dress code at weddings - people should wear what they want (except for torn jeans and a stained t-shirt - that’s just a bog no :no: )
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I'm sure you'll look good and if the bride doesn't mind then go for it.