GS Guys Would you...

Lifestyle Relationships
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you forgetting whose thread it is…:chai:

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Ok..well i have dated non-muslim desi girls among others..don't know if this is what ya asking. I must say we had good time..i made good friends with them. To me dating doesn't necessarily mean banging her. For me..this is social thing..where if i find someone interesting i ask them out. That is all i have limited myself at the moment. When it comes to marry or something..i think i would prefer someone to be in same religion and have values as i do. I am just saying coz..it makes life easier ya know..

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You’re forgetting your place before her highness. Tsk tsk.

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what happened to xtron in 3rd person??

before or behind?

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I’d date a hot jewish woman any day of the week. <3
http://top-people.starmedia.com/tmp/swotti/cacheCMFJAGVSIHDLAXN6/imgRachel%20Weisz2.jpg

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Yo coz..people were getting Xtronized so xtron is BACK with his original self to be unique once again.

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Yup, been there.

The theme of this thread makes me wonder if the OP is Nisha. If this is you, Nisha, yes CM will date you. Can't say about marriage but I promise you I will convince him for the dating part. Now please give it a rest.

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what?

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OMG:

philosophy is back. :smack:

J/K

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bohat khush lag rahe hain.

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The saddest day of my life actually. :(

;)

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uh didn't know I mattered that much.

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Not really. I meant to say “one of the saddest day” by the way. :snooty:

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not so witty, are you?

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Never claimed that.

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Well in Islam you can't date per say in the traditional Western sense. Does that mean you can't meet and get to know a perspective spouse , absolutely NOT! Muslims are encouraged to see and discuss important things with a potential spouse, doesn't mean you start sleeping with the girl!

Technically Muslim men are allowed to Marry "Ahle Kitab" Ie people of the book, ie Jewish and Christian women. However usually it is discouraged, as religious conflicts can arise, none the less it is allowed but its limited to Jews and Christians only.

Personally NO I wouldn't do it, you have to look at things long term, from a long term perspective I wouldn't do it, unless the lady was at least interested in educating herself about Islam, note I said educate, not convert.

I don't think anyone would want a girl to convert just for marriage purposes. If she was willing to educate herself and learn about Islam I might continue to pursue the matter, but in the end if she decided it wasn't for her, then I would wish her well and be on my way.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't bother with a Christian or Non Muslim girl, there are so many good Muslim women out there and I would want someone who would be compatible with me in terms of religion, that's just me though.

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bro u make it sound like its an achievement

lol

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Hi, You said you were Non Muslim right? I would just like to share with you (and any other Non Muslims who may read this) my experience in terms of "dating" a Muslim girl and marrying her.

First, please note that Islam does allow you to meet your potential wife and get to know her, share ideas, this is encouraged, .nothing wrong with that if it's done for the right reasons and in a halal setting. You as the man must respect her , and remember that you are not there to use her to satisfy your carnal desires. By Halal setting I mean that you would never meet her alone at your apartment, or go places with her alone like the movies etc..

I'm married, and my wife is Muslim, however she is NOT from the same background as me in terms of ethnicity. Yet, I couldn't care less what country her parents are from.

How I "dated" her was that, me, her parents, siblings, and cousins would go to places together like 6 flags, go to dinner etc..I would have conversations with her, her parents would never stare us down or eavesdrop. However just their presence prevented me from even thinking of doing anything remotely stupid. I'd talk to her dad about the economy, make jokes with her brothers and sisters etc...Anyway this "dating" period lasted about 2 weeks.

She told me flat out that "look I like you but if my family doesn't approve I can't go any further because I would never do anything without their blessings". Lucky for me her family liked me a lot, so it was good to go.

It was a simple and beautiful experience for me, even if in the end her parents had rejected me I wouldn't have walked away feeling depressed, or ashamed, and neither would she. We never let each other get too close before the nikah.

We had our nikah done at the mosque, and set the wedding party for a future date. However with a nikah done, she was legally my wife as per Islam and I was free to take her places alone, her parents didn't care at all where we went after the nikah. *However just to give them respect I would always ask her mom and dad if it was ok (as she still lived with them) , their response was to stop asking lol.
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So in a nutshell that's it, that's pretty much your basic Islamic dating and "rishta" procedure.

I contrast this to darker periods in my life where I was involved with Non Muslim women and had many ugly experiences, all the dating, screwing, etc..didn't bring us any closer nor did it prevent any fights or eventual break ups. Left nothing but an ugly sour taste in my mouth like expired cough medicine.

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:wub:the answer i’ve been waiting for my whole life sigh i guess i can’t get the buy one pakistani muslim prince charming guy get one free deal eh :hinna: darn…but alas pakiqueen is not me, she seems like a really cool pakistani gal though

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^ :shikra: