Re: Growing Old in America
Well not just that you need to be strong to lift them and move them and you need some nursing skills to make sure and take care of any bed sores.
If they're IMMOBILe and you don't have a nurse seeing them at home on a regular basis and you have a non trained family member assistin with them...can guarantee that probably qualifies as elder abuse in some form - no doc would approve of this kind of care unless they want their ardes hauled to court on a nice fat lawsuit.
Re: Growing Old in America
I had a great uncle with muscular dystrophy. His brothers normally took care of him but the brothers are demented themselves. At some point out of punishment he was left on a bed and didn't get turned for a few weeks (that's what I heard, who knows)
He died of septic shock. He had bed sores and maggots growin in them. Fine we can blame the household members but no nurse or doc was even seein him regularly at home.
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Oh and lovely that I mention this - the "bahu" who was do carefully selected for the ONe brother who isn't as demented as the others ... Was this super cute 20 yr old fair and lovely appearing girl from India.
Cant tell you how much chaos that crazy lady has wrecked on our family. Ohhhh great granddaddy, if you had only been so smart as to select a GOOD person as your bahu maybe with some education , half of my dad's family wouldn't be in ruins right now leaving me and my cousins to fix that stupid mess.
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i agree - wife should only go her half of the work nothing extra
that's a lot to ask of a wife to take care of your parents especially if they are immobile and can't use the toilet, etc on their own.. i don't think many wives would want to clean their in-laws' behinds