Greedy In-laws!!

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Re: Greedy In-laws!!

@noorqt

Hi Guys,

Please share your experiences…

I’m currently off work due to having two children (one after the other…mashallah), my eldest daughter is two and the youngest is 8 months. My hubby is the only one working, we have a large mortgage, student loans, home loan and many expenses but my in-laws are still demanding that my husband pays £500 each month to them on a regular basis. My husband does so, each and every month, regardless of the fact whether we have any money for ourselves or not.

We are living in the UK, so there is no great urgency to give this money to my in-laws. They have never asked how we are coping or whether we have the money or not.

We have had to put our mortgage on interest-only as we cannot keep up with the repayments but I am not allowed to say anything to my in-laws and even if I do tell them, they wouldn’t give a dam!!

I’m fed up!! PLEASE ADVISE GUYS.

Firstly, i am not married and don’t have these similar expenses to deal with (for now anyway) BUT at the end og the day the people that ur husband is providing for are his parents…not some random people who have no rishta with your family! they are his blood parents…when he was young they made him into the man he is today. the same man that married you.

Why do you assume because you live in the UK there is ‘no urgency’ to give money to his parents? it is surely about their financial situation also?

And you say they would not care about whether you are able to repay the mortage or not…have u spoken to them? hw do u know they wont care if you havent told them…the vast majority of parents want the best for their children and would never want them to lose the family home.

Also, mashallah you have a house and 2 children. if you knew that ur financial situation is not as good as it can be..you could have SAVED whilst you were both earning. and then have been financially able to take on your responsibilities. i know it seems a ‘practical’ approach to it all but to be honest it is the best way!

@noorqt

My in laws are also in the uk. my hubby will never ever tell them he’s got problems and they have never asked.

I think the problem therefore lies in your husband rather than you ranting on about your inlaws and calling them ‘greedy’…he needs to speak to them…and say mum dad i need to stop the payments for a few weeks or months or whatever

@noorqt

Come on guys… one person supporting two kids a wife and his parents, mortgage and bills, No other income stream. I shouldnt have to tell my in-laws they should understand that in this day and age couples can’t even manage their own expences but on top of that we are supporting them on a month-on month basis plus gifts and paying for their home insurance. Yet my FIL will still compare my husband to other sons saying that he never does anything!!

Hubby is an only son and has two ther sisters that are a waste of space. to all those single girls out there… DO NOT MARRY AN ONLY SON!!!

Regardless of what parents are like it is our farz as children to look after our mothers fathers and elder in their old age.

Also, if you knew he was an only son did you really think that you were not going to have to support his family? really? are you that naive in this day in age?

i am engaged to an only son…i see it as my responsibility to help him to help his mother and father. inshallah i will try my best and am going into the marriage with my eyes open and also using common sense. even if elders have a pension ..to ask for money shouldn’t be siuch a big issue as this. and when you ay his sisters are a ‘waste of space’ what do u mean?

@noorqt

If it was a give and take relationship then I wouldnt mind, but there have been numerous times that my husband and me have needed help (like when we wanted to buy our house), no one helped or even offered to help!!

I assume there is a lot of ‘silence’ between your husband you and ur inlaws…you seem to assume that someone is going to offer you something without you asking? just as they asked for £500 maybe you could have asked for some help?