Goris vs. Desans

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@Faris_Udeen

I agree with snowy_winter too, Desans i know back home were much nicer and i prefer them… look at it this way i have probably covered more miles than most young men and in my travels i have yet to have recieved a kind look from anyone but the desi larki next door back home. Insha Allah if i get the chance to go back and i pray dearly that i do i will try my best to reciprocate that gesture and ask for her hand.

Mashallah Good for u

All the best

[Faris_Udeen]

Re: Goris vs. Desans

thanks

[Decent_6Chora]

Find the reason behind that fact that Desians also treat Gora SAAAbs differently.

Logoon ko dosroon kee ankh na TINKA nazer aa jata hai liken apnee aankh ka SHEHTEER nahee nazar aata

@PyariCgudia

Why do Pakistani men treat goris (I use that term loosely, to include any non-desan, esp white girls and latinas) way better than desans?

The way they talk to them is so much nicer. They come across as nicer people. Their mothers all of a sudden will not give the gori a problem and if she does, the boy is quick to protect his gori wife. He will treat her well. One recent thread talks about a sikh family where the guy is leeching off his wife’s parents and the wife doesn’t know what to do about it. Ok, that would not happen if she was white.

Same guy - put a desi woman in front of him, and his true colors come out. Put a gori in front of him, and suddenly he is prince charming.

Why don’t desi guys even TRY to put an EFFORT into us???

[McPendo]

Re: Goris vs. Desans

Because Desans bring the wrost in us! Hints at a random woman here!

[Deeba1234]

@Mehnaz

The way I see it, I’m glad these guys are marrying white girls and not just using them and giving them false hope. At least they making a commitment to these women. This scenario is preferable to desi guys sleeping around and then finding themselves a nice desi, virgin, bride.

Totally agree..

[The_Voice]

Re: Goris vs. Desans

because all desans have the princess mentality

[flyinkiwi]

@The_Voice

because all desans have the princess mentality

This can be said about desi guys too

[Decent_6Chora]

@flyinkiwi

This can be said about desi guys too

no matter how you add this up, you cant say this for desi guys

PS: prince may be …princess nah

[Sehrysh]

@Decent_6Chora

Find the reason behind that fact that Desians also treat Gora SAAAbs differently.

Logoon ko dosroon kee ankh na TINKA nazer aa jata hai liken apnee aankh ka SHEHTEER nahee nazar aata

I will be the first to admit that I’ve NEVER had a problem being friends with a gora guy. For me, it’s an issue of my being comfortable with them without there being any crossed signals. I know I’m not into them and vice versa - so we remain great platonic friends.

With desi guys, there’s this trepidation - what if the guy misinterprets the signals (the I’m not interested or even the I am interested signals). The thought of dealing with the drama of the fallout makes me come across as very reserved and then I get accused of being uppity. So, it goes both ways - desi girls in some cases could be accused of treating gora guys better - but sometimes there’s a reason for this :).

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Goris vs. Desans

Yeah, true, you have to figure out how to act with a desi guy. You smile too much, and he thinks you’re into him. You don’t look at him, then maybe you’re just being rude.

I don’t know. I try not to think of their skin color as I speak to them. People who are gonna be uptight just will be uptight, and those who will be cool, will be cool?

[Das_Reich]

@PyariCgudia

Thank-you for being honest. You have been taught that the brown skin and the features that go with it are UGLY. Your grandparents were taught that by the British. They have passed that onto you, when they say that fair pakistani is better looking than the dark pakistani.

But guess what? MOST of you all are DARK. Dark by comparison to a caucasian for sure.

So you automatically throw all the desi girls into a “ugly” basket, and all the “white” girls into a pretty basket.

I’ve noticed desi guys marry white girls who sure, are white, but they have very plain simple bordering on not so pretty features. You compare that to a BEAUTIFUL pakistani girl with solid olive skin, flawless moisturized skin, pretty features, nicely-shaped lips, trimmed eyebrows, pretty dark eyes with long lashes (all of which WHITE guys friggin DIE FOR), and on top of that she has some nice degree, IS educated, CAN carry a good conversation, and you will not give her a chance?

THAT, my friends, is total nonsense. You boys want white girls because you were taught THAT is pretty. Not because it actually is.

Khair, what goes around, comes around. Ya’ll boys are gonna have daughters and some of you have sisters, and good luck in finding a guy for them who doesn’t think like you.

What scares me is that in this thread, not ONE guy, (even TLK who is MARRIED to a desi thinks white girls are better, and openly says this with his wife reading it) is defending the beauty and wit of desi girls.

You all are a sad bunch.

salam

i married a desi girl she wud not gain weight and she had no imagination ( hint)

now i am with a causasian woman who is a lot heavier and has lots of imagination.Thats what i like pale fat and tall girls not petite and cute

You compare that to a BEAUTIFUL pakistani girl with solid olive skin, flawless moisturized skin, pretty features, nicely-shaped lips, trimmed eyebrows, pretty dark eyes with long lashes (all of which WHITE guys friggin DIE FOR),

so thats ur ideal of beauty , not mine ’
alot of white guys like chinkis too should we blindly follow them there too

but trust me vast majority of white guys like white girls, just as most pakistani boys like pakistani

[Hassan007]

Very good topic!

My opinion is that every individual is different regardless of race. Generalizing and stereotype can go both ways. I am friends with lots of white girls and i find them very open minded and we end up talking about intellectual stuff which turns into very interesting conversation. Not to mention trip to skiing multiple times with different girls. And since i was in school i’ve always had that way with them. Now when it comes down to desi girl…i’ve always had different attitude because they think you are being “serious” with them. Couple of Pakistani girls( who are 3 to 4 years older than me actually thought i was interested in them. The evidence of that is that i actually invite all my friends once a month for a get together, so invited one of the girl couple of ocassion…she started things seriously and dropping millions of hints and finally a day came which was just month ago she emailed me asking “have you thought of an idea of settling down with any woman, if not then do you see any possibility of taking our friendship to next level”?

I applauded at her straightforwardness but sort of took my heart away because unfortunately i didn’t and do not feel same about her. Nothing but great friendship i’ve had it with her. And another story in similiar nature with other woman.

I think what i am saying is everybody is different. But i personally feel gori girls are open minded. And some of them are really pretty just like our desi girls.

[Das_Reich]

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So you automatically throw all the desi girls into a “ugly” basket, and all the “white” girls into a pretty basket.

Gawd no…tons of really really ugly white women i see everyday, and a few pretty desi girls too but mostly in pakistan not in the west

[Das_Reich]

Re: Goris vs. Desans

What scares me is that in this thread, not ONE guy, (even TLK who is MARRIED to a desi thinks white girls are better, and openly says this with his wife reading it) is defending the beauty and wit of desi girls.

isnt that another horrible generalization ? u r yourself guilty of what ur accusing desi guys of doing …stereotyping

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@Sehrysh

I will be the first to admit that I’ve NEVER had a problem being friends with a gora guy. For me, it’s an issue of my being comfortable with them without there being any crossed signals. I know I’m not into them and vice versa - so we remain great platonic friends.

With desi guys, there’s this trepidation - what if the guy misinterprets the signals (the I’m not interested or even the I am interested signals). The thought of dealing with the drama of the fallout makes me come across as very reserved and then I get accused of being uppity. So, it goes both ways - desi girls in some cases could be accused of treating gora guys better - but sometimes there’s a reason for this :).

bingo …right on the money !!!

we have almost the same reasons

we want to save our you know what from listening the killer “liken interested nahee they tu phir chocolate keyn latey theey? movies per keyn jatey theey? tum nai mujhey kaheen ka nahee choorA”

[Sehrysh]

@Decent_6Chora

bingo …right on the money !!!

"liken interested nahee they tu phir chocolate keyn latey theey?

Chocolate is a whole other matter.

Women love chocolate so they assume that men must love chocolate as well. If a man is buying her chocolate, naturally she assumes he must love her - cause I don’t know many women who would willingly share their chocolate unless it was with the one they love :jano:

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@Sehrysh

Chocolate is a whole other matter.

Women love chocolate so they assume that men must love chocolate as well. If a man is buying her chocolate, naturally she assumes he must love her - cause I don’t know many women who would willingly share their chocolate unless it was with the one they love :jano:

Then i’ll send suggestion to hersheys to launch chocolate titled

“Just a choclate” (Peanut allergy, Desi Women warning:…)

or simply “premium chocolate, just friend blend”

[Sehrysh]

^ Chocolate with disclaimers

[MIAinVA]

@Decent_6Chora

bingo …right on the money !!!

we have almost the same reasons

we want to save our you know what from listening the killer “liken interested nahee they tu phir chocolate keyn latey theey? movies per keyn jatey theey? tum nai mujhey kaheen ka nahee choorA”

Don’t you know that chocolates are not an appropriate gift for friends
Get your female friends a keychain or maybe mace, chocolates are associated with romance FYI.

[Decent_6Chora]

@MIAinVA

Don’t you know that chocolates are not an appropriate gift for friends
Get your female friends a keychain or maybe mace, chocolates are associated with romance FYI.

o la la … with your logic looks like my 4 years old princess is already hooked with some guy in her class. Aaney tu aaj uss ko Senior Kindergarten sai, wo khinchiee karoon ga … pata nahee kaun larka hai … kia kamata hai ..kaisa khandan hai