^ they are in their teens, at the top of the world they think. may i ask you, did you actually mean it back then or were you kidding around? i used to think they were just teasing their mom but then i heard them use that as a punchline in several of their tantrum fests and i felt so bad for my khala. i hope they grow out of it too, for her sake, she really doesn't deserve this kind of attitude. when i tell her she's gotta straighten them out, she says all the kids these days are like that in their community, she is not the only one going throught it...but that still doesn't make it right!
the way i see it, she made it all look so easy for them, never complaining, never letting them lift a finger that they just assumed that it was all effortless...she is partly to blame i guess.
I think i meant it 100%. I honestly dont remember ever saying it out loud to her, but in my own personal tantrum fests, yes, I meant it very much that I didnt want to end up like her. but I dont think i realized back then how spoiled rotten I was and that my parents didnt deserve the attitude I gave them. Now that those dyas are gone...I wish I could do them over.
But...ah.....all that matters is that things are different now. :)
I think a lot of girls (not all of course) coming over from Pakistan have unrealistic expectations of the west based on what they hear, what they see on TV (ever noticed how the Pakistani families based in the UK in dramas have massive houses and even helicopters on ARY etc?!) and because they see the west as a land of pure opportunity-heaven knows these girls need a reality check.
They have all these things running through their head and for some bizarre reason think they can get away with more here than in Pakistan e.g. asking for their own house rather than living in the joint family set up. Then there's there high and mighty act because in Pakistan they never worked because their parents paid their way thus they feel superior over us poor souls who work. Most girls in Pakistan (once married) do not worry about direct debts going out of their accounts, picking up children from school, sorting out bills, cleaning the home from top to bottom (okay they do clean in Pakistan), work for a living in possibly a stressful environment...in other words our lifestyle is so different. So these girls rather than thinking they'll give this lifestyle a try start with nakhrey.
I know a few lads who recently got married in Pakistan and recently their homes have turned into battlefields because their wives want to live on their own rather than in a joint family even though back home they are a part of a happy joint family system!
I suppose the nakhrey ain't the worst thing about some girls...I find the ones who use a brother to get to the west and dump him and bring over their love from abroad the worst kind of desis who should be shot.