The quicker we come out of this servant culure and mindset, the better. There is some pride in doing your own work, and some value in that. The value of independence as oppose to exploiting other human beings because you have the money. Don't tell me servants in Pakistan aren't treated sub-human.
For me, that's why I wouldn't marry anyone from Pakistan period - man or woman. Because they treat each other like crap and that is normal to them. I don't like those set of values.
I completey agree what PCG has said! Thank you and thank you. When i come back from home and no matter how tired I am...i warm food from my own hands and put my clothes in washing machine if i have to. Part of good human being as well as man/woman is to his/her part in the house and living good life by creating balance and be humble!. Be it women or men. As far as issue of using "servants" to do chores..no matter how rich and not how rich you are has nothing to do with it. This life is temporary enjoyment..so why shouldn't we use this as a opportunity to do ibadah by doing everything from our own hands. I would rather give that money to a charity which will benefit our fellow human being. We have a maid that comes every week to clean couple of things because my mother and father are sick and old. And that is too because i work long shifts on weekends.
Anyhow, the goal is not to be a spoil brat if Allah has blessed somebody with wealth. I do not feel ashamed cleaning and maintaing my house in my time and insha'allah i will continue it...after getting married as well.
As far as this whole thread goes, the key to successful life in this temporary dwelling is to be humble toward your spouse. And do things from from his/her hand if he/she has to and should know these basic task of life.