Hubby go out sometimes with his friends to play cricket or spend some time.I hang out with my friends in afternoons llike having a girls day out. In evenings its usually family time but the thing I don't like is that some times our friends don't leave children with us or we cannot leave children at their homes because if they are not doing that how can we?On the other hand all gorey neighbors leave their children at some friend's house and have fun.But in our cultural I feel its a sin if you leave your children at someone's house because they think you just think about yourself not your children.We have fun with children we do everything for them but if once in a while we couple have fun then desi parents don't feel comfortable .
yes that is understandable. I would not feel comfortable leaving my kids (when the time comes) with anyone other then family. I am paranoid enough as it is with my sisters kids...cant imagine what I will be like with my own.
It is however important to have your own identity after marriage. I often see desi women give up their identity to become a mom and a wife...they lose themselves in the process. It's just not healthy.