they like to keep up with their social life after getting married... how about our desi guys? do they rather go home and spend time with their wifey or do they also wish to hangout with their frens once or twice a week.
How about our desi women?
My social life took off after i got married bcos i got a whole lot more freedom!
:halo:
i refuse to answer that 
yea i have seen that happen with some of my friends…but only if you marry the right person.
Otherwise it’s like going from one prison to the next 
I think it is healthy for a marriage to have your OWN circle of friends.......people you can hang out with without your significant others maybe 2x a month (not asking for much i dont think). you shouldnt be joined at the hip 24/7.
There are different circles: one as a couple, one with your family, one with your friends (w/o hubby), one with his friends (w/o wife), and one with the couple and their friends (a couples night out or perhaps with the kids).
Agree 100%.
I’ve seen the opposite happening too, friends who had so much freedom to come and go as they please, marry someone who doesn’t let them go out. I don’t know how they manage.
I wouldn’t tolerate it from Mr Halwa, tho! (He’s a nice man so i don’t have to).
can u xplain that?
can u xplain that?
what i mean is..... some girls do not have much freedom when they live under their parents roof. After marriage some of them are able to come and go as they please but then there are those unfortunate ones that have to answer to their husbands about everything just like they did when they lived with their parents. In other words....they are still treated like a child even after marriage.
if you have been living in a prison before marriage and end up marrying the right person he will let you free. If not you will go from one prison to the next.
oohhhhhhhhhh gotcha gotcha 
what i mean is..... some girls do not have much freedom when they live under their parents roof. After marriage some of them are able to come and go as they please but then there are those unfortunate ones that have to answer to their husbands about everything just like they did when they lived with their parents. In other words....they are still treated like a child even after marriage.
if you have been living in a prison before marriage and end up marrying the right person he will let you free. If not you will go from one prison to the next.
Lolo you wannt me to sum this up in one sentence? :@:
i think my last sentence summed it up 
i know i know…i end up writing a whole thesis sometimes… 
Hubby go out sometimes with his friends to play cricket or spend some time.I hang out with my friends in afternoons llike having a girls day out. In evenings its usually family time but the thing I don't like is that some times our friends don't leave children with us or we cannot leave children at their homes because if they are not doing that how can we?On the other hand all gorey neighbors leave their children at some friend's house and have fun.But in our cultural I feel its a sin if you leave your children at someone's house because they think you just think about yourself not your children.We have fun with children we do everything for them but if once in a while we couple have fun then desi parents don't feel comfortable .
Hubby go out sometimes with his friends to play cricket or spend some time.I hang out with my friends in afternoons llike having a girls day out. In evenings its usually family time but the thing I don't like is that some times our friends don't leave children with us or we cannot leave children at their homes because if they are not doing that how can we?On the other hand all gorey neighbors leave their children at some friend's house and have fun.But in our cultural I feel its a sin if you leave your children at someone's house because they think you just think about yourself not your children.We have fun with children we do everything for them but if once in a while we couple have fun then desi parents don't feel comfortable .
yes that is understandable. I would not feel comfortable leaving my kids (when the time comes) with anyone other then family. I am paranoid enough as it is with my sisters kids...cant imagine what I will be like with my own.
It is however important to have your own identity after marriage. I often see desi women give up their identity to become a mom and a wife...they lose themselves in the process. It's just not healthy.
Lolo you wannt me to sum this up in one sentence? :@:
Out of the frying pan, into the fire?
Out of the frying pan, into the fire?
hehe i like that.
yes that is understandable. I would not feel comfortable leaving my kids (when the time comes) with anyone other then family. I am paranoid enough as it is with my sisters kids...cant imagine what I will be like with my own.
It is however important to have your own identity after marriage. I often see desi women give up their identity to become a mom and a wife...they lose themselves in the process. It's just not healthy.
AE we don't have a family here if we have one or two trusted friends then instead of leaving my children with baby sitter I want to leave them at their house.
Definately you should have your own identity I see most of women giving up theirselves after marriage just going after kids.
If you have a great understanding with husband then he will never force you to do anything but there is one more thing that is understanding your husbands I think if some girls give up their lives for their husband its not because their hubs are forcing them they are doing it for the love of their family and love of their kids.
Hubby go out sometimes with his friends to play cricket or spend some time.I hang out with my friends in afternoons llike having a girls day out. In evenings its usually family time but the thing I don't like is that some times our friends don't leave children with us or we cannot leave children at their homes because if they are not doing that how can we?On the other hand all gorey neighbors leave their children at some friend's house and have fun.But in our cultural I feel its a sin if you leave your children at someone's house because they think you just think about yourself not your children.We have fun with children we do everything for them but if once in a while we couple have fun then desi parents don't feel comfortable .
UZ- find a baby sitter, really.
with leaving kids at someone's house, the age of kids is a huge factor.
as they get a little older it s easier from what I have seen.
but find some good babysitters, even if you use them once every coupleof weeks, its worth it.
UZ- find a baby sitter, really. with leaving kids at someone's house, the age of kids is a huge factor. as they get a little older it s easier from what I have seen.
but find some good babysitters, even if you use them once every coupleof weeks, its worth it.
hmmm I will try X2 when I tried then there were only teenagers available for night babysitting and elder babysitters were available for day time.But I hope I find the right one.
Re: GORAYs
Yes, but I seldom seem my friends. I prefer to be alone.