Good Wife = Good Cook

[PakiAmerican]

^funny to hear from YOU!

you started another thread just to COMPLAIN about women. what's wid this niceness today? You are actually supporting women!

lol - good life should be that way. Never stay angry for long - it's a new day - start with a brand new smile!=)

I have always supported women. The other thread was about 'Aaj Ki Aurat' not Aurat in general.

I was not angry, just lil` frustrated about how people have no tolerance for ideas that are not their own.

Regards

[maroush]

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PakiAmerican - You're in a better mood..... I knew you had PMT yesterday!!! :)

I agree with you and it's a good attitude to have; you both enter a marriage, therefore certain duties are shared.

[PakiAmerican]

PakiAmerican - You're in a better mood..... I knew you had PMT yesterday!!! :)

I agree with you and it's a good attitude to have; you both enter a marriage, therefore certain duties are shared.

Is PMT what I think it is ? plz explain

[Iggle]

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When that abbreviation is applied to time it means Pacific Mountain Time. :)

[PakiAmerican]

When that abbreviation is applied to time it means Pacific Mountain Time. :)

LOL...LOL....no realy ?

[NJMasti]

@iggle

When that abbreviation is applied to time it means Pacific Mountain Time.

good really good!!!

I was trying to come up with something but this beat it all!!!

[Iggle]

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^ Its true as well. Hehe! :)

[Decent_6Chora]

@NJMasti

I would like to share my cooking experience with you all!!!!!

When I got married, I had little knowledge on how to cook desi foods. Most of my cooking part was about BOILING EGGS, Making chai, roti, rice, and the rest was like pastas, chinese, mexican, - EVERYTHING but desi foods... and My hubby preferred desi foods!!!!!!

I think desi foods are the MOST time consuming, from preparation, to masala making and serving and all.

So to learn, I got desi cook books - and boy those were the most frustrating experience I EVER went through. It would tell to use in KILOS, POUNDS, MG, and all the metric systems in the world.

I did not learn from ANY of the desi cook books.

I was working full time too. I would call up mom and ask her - okay mom this is what I want to make today - and what ingredients do I use and how much? So I learned somewhat from this - but it was still not good enough because sometimes the peppers would be too much or something else too little. However, I realized that each time I made it, I learned what was less and more, so next time I would cut it out... it took few years to master, because it all depends on YOUR HANDS-ON experience only.

Sometimes I got frustrated and shouted out to hubby dear - that I want to BAN desi foods in this home - although I love it myself - hehe.

I admire his patients. He said it's okay - you practice your cooking skills on me! and sometimes he too made the Tandoori Chicken or Creamy Chicken - to help me out.

Today I don't need his help! I have mastered it all!

I must thank my hubby for being a part of the "experiment". LOL

So much to blame on "Desi Food". Its hard...its this ...its that.... although most of your frustration is related to you not learning it when you were single and within and arm reach of your mother just like you did with chineese, maxican and other food :)

I think cooking is fun if you enjoy it else i have seen people who find it hard to fry egg too. :)

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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^ desi food isnt hard...it's just time consuming. A lot of time goes into the prep work and the actual cooking. It's even more challenging for those that work.

Best thing to cook for a working woman would be easy to cook meals like grilled/baked foods during the weekday and a full pakistani meal during the weekends. ORRR maybe you can get all the prep work out of the way on weekends for the desi foods so that all you have to do is throw in a bunch of stuff in a pot and cook it :D

[NJMasti]

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^yes I agree - it's the prep time, and the cooking time - that kills a working woman!

and don't forget - you have to stand by the gas stove to keep on MIXING to avoid burning. =(

Foods like chinese, Italian, Mexican - they do not take much time.

[Decent_6Chora]

^ desi food isnt hard...it's just time consuming. A lot of time goes into the prep work and the actual cooking. It's even more challenging for those that work.

Best thing to cook for a working woman would be easy to cook meals like grilled/baked foods during the weekday and a full pakistani meal during the weekends. ORRR maybe you can get all the prep work out of the way on weekends for the desi foods so that all you have to do is throw in a bunch of stuff in a pot and cook it :D

on the other hand I have found Chineese food more difficult if you count preparation a bit time consuming. cut veggies get this get that. I guess if you freeze meat after washing according to weight proportion, freeze cubes of ginger/garlic and have stocked peeled onion in the fridge ...it makes life a bit easier :)

[Sara516]

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For desi cooking, the key is to have some of hte main ingredients on hand.. prepare them over hte weekend. I use canned chopped tomatoes, i just hate wasting time on cutting tomatoes and it really doens't make a diference.. peel a bunch of onions a few days beforehand and keep em in a box, same with dhania/green onion. I buy ready-made paste b/c I don't have a chopper/blender, but its really easy to make enough to last a week...

[AnGeL_EyEs]

@Decent_6Chora

on the other hand I have found Chineese food more difficult if you count preparation a bit time consuming. cut veggies get this get that. I guess if you freeze meat after washing according to weight proportion, freeze cubes of ginger/garlic and have stocked peeled onion in the fridge …it makes life a bit easier

with chinese its only prep time that is time consuming…not the actual cooking.

but yes i agree…have the prep work ready ahead of time :k:…then any cuisine can be easy to cook.

I guess if your spouse absolutely loves desi food then I could see you putting in the effort of preparing meals in advance and cooking it everyday during the week (even if u work)…otherwise I would just stick to cooking it on the weekends.

[njgal]

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^ slowly we all begin to get the shortcuts. It use to take hours to cook anything.

I can whip up fresh dinner in under 30 minutes even desi dishes (thank to my pressure cooker and freezer)

[Iggle]

on the other hand I have found Chineese food more difficult if you count preparation a bit time consuming. cut veggies get this get that.

I find it hard too esp' when you have to cut the veggies etc into match-stick size pieces! Its so tiring esp' when you have to cook for my in-laws huge family! Lol! :)

[Straight_up]

Notorious, yes, I get very nervous. So, it’s nice to know you’ve been there, done it and survived!

@*Milly*

Are you saying that all women learn how to cook for their husbands?

I learnt how to cook as I had to, my mum was ill, we had to cook to feed ourselves. I think the only men I have learnt to cook for are my dad and brother.

No one (apart from a few nasty aunties) have ever said to me ‘ooo you’re ready for marriage now that you can cook!’

I still only cook for my dad and brother, sometimes my grandad too.

Are you married? Yes, all women do learn to cook for their husbands. And nasty aunties do say and think you’re not ready for marriage if you haven’t learned to cook yet (speaking from experience).

@njgal

I think one of the most fun things to do with your spouse is cook together. My husband cooks amazing desi cook. My speicality is chinese, arabic and snacks.

Cooking “good food” is not rocket science. There are so many shows, books, recipes on the internet.

I would worry more about the personality of the person than cooking skills.

If in-laws are living with you and/or more family, then that’s where this might not be plausible - hubby and I cooking and in-laws watching.

If we live on our own, I’m sure I’d feel better about the whole thing.

As for shows, cook books - all this stuff just goes over my head - I’ve no idea what they’re doing or talking about. I’m starting to watch my mom cook and try helping her - hoping to pick up on things. So far, I’m still stuck on the use of haldi.

@AnGeL_EyEs

SU nice thread.

I said this a couple years ago and I got bashed by many people men and women alike for saying it…but i still stand by my words…

" The way to a mans heart is through his stomach!! "

and those that deny this to be true…either cant cook or have a wife that cant cook and they are trying to make themselves feel better

however with that said…OBVIOUSLY there are more things to love then just a woman who can cook…being able to cook does help in the love department…it’s an added bonus…a man will love you more for feeding him.

Just my observation…what do i know

My biggest fear, AE. Hate that saying now!!!

I’ll feed him, I know I will - but when he takes a bite and goes, uh, that’s enough - I’ll be heartbroken.

@PakiAmerican

Well apart from all jokes, the reality is that ‘Zindagi ki saari bhaag daor sirf is pait hi kay liyay hai’. If that is not satisfied, no love-shove last very long. Doesn’t matter who but one of the spouse has to know or learn how to cook and I mean cook good.

In todays’ busy life, both partners have to help each other and get out of this myth of ‘yeh aurat ki job hai’, ‘yeh marad ka kaam hai’…

@Decent_6Chora

So much to blame on “Desi Food”. Its hard…its this …its that… although most of your frustration is related to you not learning it when you were single and within and arm reach of your mother just like you did with chineese, maxican and other food

I think cooking is fun if you enjoy it else i have seen people who find it hard to fry egg too.

Agreed.

@NJMasti

^yes I agree - it’s the prep time, and the cooking time - that kills a working woman!

and don’t forget - you have to stand by the gas stove to keep on MIXING to avoid burning. =(

Foods like chinese, Italian, Mexican - they do not take much time.

One of the hardest parts. But, good upper-arm excercise.

[NJMasti]

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njgal- the pressure cooker and the freezer definitely helps - but - it's better for the EXPERIENCED ones!!!

If you do not know the microwave technique to defrost the frozen food/meat - then you are totally out of luck and out of time!!

[Straight_up]

For desi cooking, the key is to have some of hte main ingredients on hand.. prepare them over hte weekend. I use canned chopped tomatoes, i just hate wasting time on cutting tomatoes and it really doens't make a diference.. peel a bunch of onions a few days beforehand and keep em in a box, same with dhania/green onion. I buy ready-made paste b/c I don't have a chopper/blender, but its really easy to make enough to last a week...

Excellent ideas Sara. Canned tomatoes, ready-made garlic, ginger paste, ready made Shan masalas, hmmm good stuff. :)

[AnGeL_EyEs]

My biggest fear, AE. Hate that saying now!!!

I'll feed him, I know I will - but when he takes a bite and goes, uh, that's enough - I'll be heartbroken. :(

the day a man says that to me (in regards to my cooking of course).....is the day I will stop cooking for him :)

[njgal]

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Advice to youngins - master one thing whether it be daal, or chicken, or snacks. The more your cook the better you get. It just comes with experience.

For cutting vegetables really small - get a chooping knife or a chopping board (comes with attachment). Cuts your time in half. (and your vegetables ;) )