I would have to disagree that this is where the tradition stems from because the Holy Prophet p.b.u.h. initiated the inheritance of welath for females as a means of financial security and prior to that, there was no such thing as providing any sort of financial security for women. Gold existed prior to the time of the Holy Prophet p.b.u.h. Lets keep in mind that gold had much less value at that time.
All I;m going to say is that If giving gold is a tradition that enables women to feel financially secure at the expense of putting her family in financial instability (debt)…then this tradition..IMO…is outdated and no longer beneficial as originally intended. For people who can still afford to wera gold…should do so. People who cannot…should not put themselves in debt TRYING to do so.
Excellent! Very well put naqsa. PF, you should really try and understand people here are not criticizing their own culture so no need to get defensive. Clearly, naqsa has her facts straight.