Thanks, thats very tacky, you see I see my inlaws every second year as we live abroad. This year I am flying back and will be taking the gold I got from them and changing it, maybe to make it easier I might take my MIL with me, so that she will feel the part of the process, the excuse I got for the choorian as they dont fit me and I dont want red hands everytime I try em on (will get kara's or choorian that can be opened instead) but for the set, I will tell her I want a set with stones thats why I am changing it.
Good thinking!