How many gold sets are you suppose to get for jahez and baree? Which side do the wedding/valima sets come from?
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my parents got me two very heavy and three medium sized gold sets ...8 bangles one kara and one bracelet.. some gold chains and earing sets
my inlaws got me one small gold set for valima and a ring for mun dikhai
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In our family, the girl's side gives wedding dress so wedding set comes from them too and walima suit/set from hubby's side.
I had a big set matching with my lehnga from mums side. Other than that i had 2 small-medium sets, 7 chooriyaan and 2 karey matching, couple of rings (about 5-6), bracelet, 2-3 small earrings etc.
From in-laws i got 1 big walima set, 3 small-medium sets, 1 small earrings and 1 medium earrings, 7 chooriyaan and 2 karey, 1 ring mun dikhayi from mother-in-law and a watch (non-gold) and 1 mangani ring and bracelet. I also got a small diamond set from hubby for mun-dikhayii.
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There isn't one right answer.
I got two heavyish sets for my bari. Heavy enough for the wedding, but not too heavy to be worn again.
My mother gave me one heavy set and then 2 a bit lighter. Other close relatives (khalas, nani, etc) also gave me gold sets, slightly smaller.
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I dont think there is any set number of what a bride is "supposed" to get, the number will always vary greatly from family to family. The nikkah set usually comes from the girl's side & walima set usually from the guy's side, at least in my family
**How many gold sets are you suppose to get for jahez and baree? **Which side do the wedding/valima sets come from?
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However much each side wants to give.
My parents gave me 10 sets and 8 karay, as well as a few chains and rings and earrings. In laws gave me 3 small sets plus 6 churiyan, 2 karay, a tikka and chain and rings in moonh dikhai. **
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Yeh there is no set number of sets. On my wedding I got 7 sets from the inlaws all including rings and a set of 13 churiyan. My parents gave me 11 sets, 2 sets of churiyan with 9 churiyan each, 4 karay out of which one is so awesome that I wear it with jeans and some other small earrings rings etc.
The thing that mattered to me was that I get the same amount of jewelry from my FIL that he would give to his daughter in her wedding and I let my husband know that because I didn't want to end up getting two sets from the FIL while he gives like ten to his daughte only cuz i feel that i should be treated just like his daughter. After all he has only one son amd i will be his only bahu:). He had already planned it that way so I ended up with what I got and he also gave me diamond stud earrings on the valima which I had wanted for a long time and was very surprised specially since the earrings alone probably cost the same as all the sets he gave. I wear them everyday :)
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*^ Lucky girl MashALLAH!
You should post pictures.
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^ i agree..
yall should post pictures. :)
Now that's a great idea! Do share ladies! That includes you too sara.
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yo yo..please do post pics....just hearing about it all is making me....drooling
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I got a heavy set for my Nikah from the inlaws, 6 karas, a ring and a gold cuff.
For the rukhsati, I got an heirloom kara from ma, 6 antique meena kari churiyaan, 2 karas, a panch-lara, kaan, and tikka--all from my parents.
I was also given an antique polki set, a medium sized antique gold set, and a wedding band from my husband and my inlaws.
I prefer to buy as a browse... :)
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hope u all are paying zakat :p
btw I payed for my own gold, so it was a heavy set with tikka and one big kara that i reall love, some gold rings from relatives, a medium set from my khala and one smaller set from my parents that was given to me before. Later my parents gave me 2 more smaller sets.
I got one bridal set with tikka from my inlaws and 6 choorian and some rings.
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It all depends on the family.
I think most families do a set amount of gold instead of number of sets. Atleast thats what happens on mom's side of the family.
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ok girls one more question like how do u take ur jewellery with u do u own a locker where u keep. I mean after the shadee day who is responsible to keep all this jewellery?
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^^my mum packed all my jewellery in a bag and gave this bag to my sas at the time of rukhsati ..she also made two lists and gave one to my sas and kept the other one..
after wedding i kept all my jewellery in a small locker
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thanx citrine u helped me alot and ya one thing is it necessary to make a list i mean how does it help???
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After getting married in KHI, we were all coming back to NY so me, my FIL and my mom took 1/3 each and brought it back. After that I got it all, made a list and put it in a locker at a bank near my place.
I keep my jewlery at home because i wear it quite a bit. If it was at the locker, it would negate the reason of even owning anything. We have a lot of parties around here and i surely cannot run to the locker every week.
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my mom had quite a few sets (gold, whitegold, stones and pearls)made for me plus bangles and rings and none of them were huge cuz i wanted to be able to get some wear out of them. and i do.. quite a bit (thus i keep my jewellary at home and not at the locker)...
i got one set for the bari. and 2 karay.
if its the matter of 2 cultures .. actually no... it depends on the famliy.. in my family we give a lot in bari too so the fact i got so little was quite shocking to the baray buzurg in the family ... but thats how it is in my susral so doesnt matter.
so there is no defined how much of anything u should be getting at the wedding. and u only have right over what ure side is doing.. i dont think girls should interfere and say they want this much of this and that much of that when it comes to the bari. unless they are asked.