so there is no defined how much of anything u should be getting at the wedding. and u only have right over what ure side is doing.. i dont think girls should interfere and say they want this much of this and that much of that when it comes to the bari. unless they are asked.
again, this thread is not to find out what everyone's getting and then call up my mil to say, so and so got 8 sets so make sure you send that many my way. as for the bari, i don't think it's appropriate to demand stuff from inlaws, and i wouldn't do that because i can ask my parents to make me whatever i want. however if the inlaws start interfering into our side and telling us what my parents should be giving me then that's an issue.