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Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my zevar as much as the next person lol, and have been very blessed in that regard too. Most of my jewelry is more modern and contemporary in design, and I have a love affair with diamonds 
..And again, the heirloom Hyderabadi zevaraat I inherited are truly priceless. …it’s just not the end all and be all of my existence, nor did I place any importance on it when marrying. I was more interested in becoming a wife, not being a bride…hell, I didn’t even want a wedding..I begged my Ammi to let us just do a quiet nikkah at the masjid and call it a day lol.
I also have no problem with the poster who thinks investing in real estate is a bad idea.
My bone of contention is more along the lines of what Reha & SGC have pointed out…that sense of entitlement and expectation that one** *has ***to be given gold…the whole laina/daina rivaaj is abhorrent in my opinion. My self worth as a bride was not incumbent on how much gold my inlaws gave me or even my parents for that matter. When people start setting expectations that “such-and-such amount **should **be given to me because my parents gave that much to them”…well, I just find that a tad bit crass.
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Errr… Are you sure you meant to quote me?
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LOL…first half of my post was more or less agreeing with you about modern designs vs bright gold…rest of it was just a general statement to add to the topic at hand.
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My bone of contention is more along the lines of what Reha & SGC have pointed out...that sense of entitlement and expectation that one** has *to be given gold...the whole laina/daina rivaaj is abhorrent in my opinion. My self worth as a bride was not incumbent on how much gold my inlaws gave me or even my parents for that matter. When people start setting expectations that "such-and-such amount **should **be given to me because my parents gave that much to them"...well, I just find that a tad bit **crass*.
Exactly!
It looks...un-classy.
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Nothing wrong in liking gold. My mom loves it and being the only daughter she gifted it to me. But my taste borders on what people here consider gaudy and flashy (big and Blingy!)....no way would I afford that if it were made of real gold and I'd have no qualms about getting artificial.
Gold on Wedding
A family friend wore so much gold on her valima. Saada gold. 2-3 necklaces of diff lengths, churiyan etc! It looked so bad. She probably did this as it is almost mandatory in their UP Indian Muslim community to wear tons of gold on special occasions. Honestly, a normal nice set, albeit plain gold would have looked so much better. Sometimes money cannot buy you taste.
In my family, we like jaraoo sets. Emerald, ruby, sapphire ho, kundan, uncut diamonds etc with gold. Typically sold in Pakistani jewelry stores. It looks so trendy. And even the traditional Hyderebadi set. That looks so regal. :)
That being gold looks good too if worn appropriately and not piled on to show off how much gold the bride has. Looks tacky.
I went to a birthday party a few days back. A friend's baby's. Friend was wearing a stunning plain gold set, normal size necklace and earrings and looked good and not tacky at all. She told me it was given by her in laws on her shaadi, but due to Karachi's bad halaat, she didn't wear it on the actual wedding. She wore an artificial set instead. So well, har kissi ki marzi hai. Gold pehno na pehno aap ki marzi. Most girls these days who are my age don't care about gold. My mom is a gold fan, so I have a lot of knowledge and would like to wear it if finances permit, but my sisters don't gv two hoots. In fact, they rather wear a nice diamond set for their wedding as it may be used more in the future.
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Also, people are also forgetting that owning property gives you good financial standing, unlike gold you don’t necessarily even have to sell it to make money because the banks will take someone who owns property much more seriously than a person with lots of gold sets.. As well as the financial pluses when selling it will increase your quality of life at the same time (if you’re living in it obviously) or give you rental income if you’re not..
I think it’s quite telling that gold is only seen as the “best” option in places where loans and other financial options are not easily accessible..
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It’s a one-time quick fix for people who need money quickly or urgently and once it’s gone it’s gone forever.. **
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I think it's quite telling that gold is only seen as the "best" option in places where loans and other financial options are not easily accessible.. ** It's a one-time quick fix for people who need money quickly or urgently and once it's gone it's gone forever.. **
I think no one looks at gold as a long term cash return anyway. It's traditionally always been the described as the cash pot for rainy days.
A lady I know was left with massive debts by her husband (who escaped to another country). She needed money in a week and since half the debt was bank related they were hardly going to give her another loan. She had to sell her jewellery and then managed to sell her house a couple of months later because the market wasn't in the favour of the seller.
Obviously a more pragmatic person isn't going to behave like a criminal or make dubious investments so like you said gold obviously should take a backseat.
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^I think someone earlier mentioned it being a "safer" investment than property and immune to economic fluctuations.. That obviously isn't true as the price of gold tends to fall when the economy is doing better (as it has recently)..
Of course it can used as a "cash pot" for a rainy day but no accountant or financial advisor in their right mind will tell a person to invest in gold over property.. Like you've said it's more about being a last resort.. it shouldn't be seen as the first or best option..