My bone of contention is more along the lines of what Reha & SGC have pointed out…that sense of entitlement and expectation that one** *has ***to be given gold…the whole laina/daina rivaaj is abhorrent in my opinion. My self worth as a bride was not incumbent on how much gold my inlaws gave me or even my parents for that matter. When people start setting expectations that “such-and-such amount **should **be given to me because my parents gave that much to them”…well, I just find that a tad bit crass.