Gold on Wedding

Aaze · August 22, 2014, 9:20pm

Re: Gold on Wedding

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my zevar as much as the next person lol, and have been very blessed in that regard too. Most of my jewelry is more modern and contemporary in design, and I have a love affair with diamonds ..And again, the heirloom Hyderabadi zevaraat I inherited are truly priceless. …it’s just not the end all and be all of my existence, nor did I place any importance on it when marrying. I was more interested in becoming a wife, not being a bride…hell, I didn’t even want a wedding..I begged my Ammi to let us just do a quiet nikkah at the masjid and call it a day lol.

I also have no problem with the poster who thinks investing in real estate is a bad idea.

My bone of contention is more along the lines of what Reha & SGC have pointed out…that sense of entitlement and expectation that one** *has ***to be given gold…the whole laina/daina rivaaj is abhorrent in my opinion. My self worth as a bride was not incumbent on how much gold my inlaws gave me or even my parents for that matter. When people start setting expectations that “such-and-such amount **should **be given to me because my parents gave that much to them”…well, I just find that a tad bit crass.

Errr… Are you sure you meant to quote me?