Salam,
I an eligible bachelor and am going to a muslim “single” event here in NY in couple of weeks. I have never been to such an event before, so unsure on what to expect…
Are these events typically like “speed dating” and what are the next steps? just have my ammi get in touch with the girl’s ammi? or what..I’m just confused.
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Dude, you could do all that in the comfort of your own home. SingleMuslim.com?
Personally, I think it is a waste of time. Then again what would I know....
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why is it a waste of time? I'd rather meet someone face to face rather than look up a (possibly fake) profile on-line.
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Well I was sugar coating it. I think its for losers. There are better ways to meet women.
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yeah whatever dude - dont care what you think.
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You got a better chance at a library. No Lie.
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havent been to a library since i graduated..so thats a nonstarter..
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Probably full of guys and girls looking for visa sponsorship.
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Ive been to one...got tricked by my mother to go. She told me we were going to see some aunty and then to wear shalwar kameez.
I think I was so turned off because I wasnt prepared. I didnt take it seriously and just ran out as soon as I could.
But if I was prepared...maybe it might not have been so bad. Most showed up with their families, were normal and very open to just talking.
I would just make sure to get contact information, get to know her a bit more and then ask her how she would like to proceed.
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TeenDabbaWalla- I have a green card, so not looking for a sponsor.
Reha - my family is all back at home (pakistan). So I hope that won't be awkard if im there by myself. Also; if the families are there does this mean they are part of the conv between the girl & guy?
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It wont be awkward at all...lots of people were there alone. I think one of the guys that spoke to me was in the US by himself...his whole family was in Pakistan.
The way it was set up was the girls stayed in one place while the guys rotated around the tables. At the end of the introductions, if a guy or girl wanted to get to know one of the prospectives they had the option of asking to speak to them at a table alone.
Families were not involved in the conversations, they stayed away until the end of the evening. My mom was not sitting with me and I didnt see parents hanging around any of the other girls either.
You should just go and see what its all about. What is the worst thing that could happen? You might make a few friends! I actually ended up going to the city with a few girls I met there, it was a last minute plan and quite fun!
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Thanks Reha.
One more thing, how were the guys dressed? no suits right? im just thinking of business casual.
I hear you on what's to lose and that's my attitude as well. But if all I get from going to this event is some dudes that I can hang out with, I will consider it a mjaor fail! hahaha..
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Talking about straight event right?? 
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It is so SAD that in our culture, gender barriers cause us to resort to speed dating dinners, which are never referred to as speed dating, but rather have silly names like "milan party" or something ridiculous, where interfering aunties sit there and watch you like hawks.
I don't understand why our parents never encouraged us to be FRIENDS with kids of the opposite sex and just meet mates through family gatherings and friends at school, like MOST PEOPLE DO.
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Not that simple pyaricguida. I went to a small school where I could count Pakistanis on my fingers. Since, I wanted a pakistani wife (just my preference) the whole finding your mate at college doesnt really work out.
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cant you take any friend with you? it wont be awkward atleast going all by yourself, no?
my cuz in NYC told me that a lot of people go to these events. parents go with their gals or sons. family meet bla bla bla. i personally dont know anyone going here in canada, or in nyc to these events. so dont know the real sitaution but as someone already mentioned above that its not just you, other party might also be looking for some greencard holder, so beware of the consequences.
best way is to ask your pakistani friends, or find an aunt in your neighborhood, make acquaintances with her. desi aunties get itched if they see any eligible bachelor roaming without a wife. lol
ps. if you want to get everyone's attention then go with a bang and wear armani.
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I know of a couple who met through an ICNA convention in Chicago. The girl and guy were both there with their friends and once they met, the guy got the girl's father's permission to get to know her better. Things for them progressed quite well.
So you don't really need to be there with your family. Like someone else suggested, take friends if you can, it's more like a social event and if no one strikes your fancy, there's no pressure and you move on.
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Well, I don't think I'll be able to convice any of frnd to tag along. I'll brave thise myself! ha
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Then you should...
wear a designer shirt and belt, carry as many fancy gadgets as you can, take a bath with cologne-mixed water, and use LOTS of gel in your hair.
I kid ... you'll do fine.
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Yeah it's like speed dating. But halal-er since it's got Muslims involved.