It is so SAD that in our culture, gender barriers cause us to resort to speed dating dinners, which are never referred to as speed dating, but rather have silly names like "milan party" or something ridiculous, where interfering aunties sit there and watch you like hawks.
I don't understand why our parents never encouraged us to be FRIENDS with kids of the opposite sex and just meet mates through family gatherings and friends at school, like MOST PEOPLE DO.
PCG, parents fear things that really do happen. Their daughters will become friends with guys, one thing will lead to another and what if she falls in love with some loser we dont approve of. They're just scared.
HotTea
Keep it casual...no suit is necessary. Wear a nice shirt with a pair of jeans and you should do fine. Some people wore jeans and some people wore slacks. It just depends more on what your personal style is.
Ask them: "Do you like tea? Yes? Would you like some hot tea?" badap tish.. only works though if they know your screen name :( But would be pretty funny anyway and you could have a nice laugh all by yourself while everyone looked at you. That's always fun too if things get boring. But yeah good luck and stuff.
Pakistan is full of Pakistanis but the US has these concentrated pockets of people that are either connected or not. If you're not very social, then the chances of your children getting married decreases even more.
To bring people, communities and like minded individuals together they have speed dating, matrimonial services, bureaus, match-makers, rishta aunties, etc.
Hi, I'm single and the name's 'hottea'
Looking for a wife not just another totty,
Tell me can you make a perfect chapati,
I see you do curry too, your kameez is all spotty,
I'm uneasy with this whole speed dating,
Can't even relax, this is just player hatin'
Sorry I'm just edgy and done waiting,
Just wanna get on with some mating
Great! Now your Amma's looking over,
Seriously its totally killing my boner,
Oops sorry please don't be ghussa,
I was just kidding, don't take of that Khussaaaaaaaaaa!*
*It is advisable to run away at this point.
Ask them: "Do you like tea? Yes? Would you like some hot tea?" badap tish.. only works though if they know your screen name But would be pretty funny anyway and you could have a nice laugh all by yourself while everyone looked at you. That's always fun too if things get boring. But yeah good luck and stuff.
Hi, I'm single and the name's 'hottea'
Looking for a wife not just another totty,
Tell me can you make a perfect chapati,
I see you do curry too, your kameez is all spotty,
I'm uneasy with this whole speed dating,
Can't even relax, this is just player hatin'
Sorry I'm just edgy and done waiting,
Just wanna get on with some mating
Great! Now your Amma's looking over,
Seriously its totally killing my boner,
Oops sorry please don't be ghussa,
I was just kidding, don't take of that Khussaaaaaaaaaa!*
It must be sooo awkward for girls to be in such events. Girls feels sooo awkward in arranged rishta visits but at least its one family visiting their homes at a time. Such events must have them feeling like they are exhibited to guys :( But Pakistanis living outside Pakistan have so much problems in finding spouses that these events are much needed.
Can't the organisers of such events just collect the data of candidates and exchange their contacts depending on the match of their criteria? Woun't that be much easier for candidates?
Hi, I'm single and the name's 'hottea'
Looking for a wife not just another totty,
Tell me can you make a perfect chapati,
I see you do curry too, your kameez is all spotty,
I'm uneasy with this whole speed dating,
Can't even relax, this is just player hatin'
Sorry I'm just edgy and done waiting,
Just wanna get on with some mating
Great! Now your Amma's looking over,
Seriously its totally killing my boner,
Oops sorry please don't be ghussa,
I was just kidding, don't take of that Khussaaaaaaaaaa!*
It must be sooo awkward for girls to be in such events. Girls feels sooo awkward in arranged rishta visits but at least its one family visiting their homes at a time. Such events must have them feeling like they are exhibited to guys But Pakistanis living outside Pakistan have so much problems in finding spouses that these events are much needed.
What about the guys? Are they not exhibited to the girls too?
It must be sooo awkward for girls to be in such events. Girls feels sooo awkward in arranged rishta visits but at least its one family visiting their homes at a time. Such events must have them feeling like they are exhibited to guys :( But Pakistanis living outside Pakistan have so much problems in finding spouses that these events are much needed.
Can't the organisers of such events just collect the data of candidates and exchange their contacts depending on the match of their criteria? Woun't that be much easier for candidates?
Anyways, good luck to OP :)
I think, if you're going to these events, like Reha said, you're ready to be married and ready to seek out a partner. So I doubt it's going to be awkward. Also, events like these are speed dating. Seemingly there shouldn't be anything bad because these type of events are supposed to be in the favor of the woman.
As for collecting data, what kind of data? Name, age, location, vital stats etc? How is that any different from a rishta process which people are seeking to avoid? People are going to go to these events to get a feel for the person, how they are by talking to them, not what they look like on paper.
What about the guys? Are they not exhibited to the girls too?
But I read above the girls keep on sitting and the guys go on to meet various girls on the tables. As if visitors are trying to look at things in exhibitions :(
And imagine gorgeous girls getting most visitors and not-so-gorgeous girls getting no visitors :(
And how do guys know from just looking at a girl about her age, education etc which is very important for marriage matters? Is their first question to any girl: what is your age and education etc, to know whether you are my match or not?
As for collecting data, what kind of data? Name, age, location, vital stats etc? How is that any different from a rishta process which people are seeking to avoid? People are going to go to these events to get a feel for the person, how they are by talking to them, not what they look like on paper.
Haha..reminds me of that HIMYM episode, where this dating agency takes Ted's data and puts it in a computer to find him a match.
But I read above the girls keep on sitting and the guys go on to meet various girls on the tables. As if visitors are trying to look at things in exhibitions
I'm sure if you inform them in advance, they'd make special arrangements for you. That way you could go up to every table to meet your prospects. Sounds interesting.
Would you rather the girls walk around the room, while the guys sit on the tables and get a look at the girls watching? Why not the guys just go to Hooters then
I an eligible bachelor and am going to a muslim "single" event here in NY in couple of weeks. I have never been to such an event before, so unsure on what to expect...
Are these events typically like "speed dating" and what are the next steps? just have my ammi get in touch with the girl's ammi? or what..I'm just confused.
Walaikum salam
I dont know what happens at such events. But i'll suggest you to speak to your mom and ask her that "if i like some girl from that event should I approach her myself or is it appropriate that you talk to her or her parents?." Of course if she says "yes you can approach her yourself and talk to her to find out what she is like in person and then if you are satisfied with that then the rishta can go ahead". You also asked what you should wear. i think a business suit would be good. i would also go for a nice shalwar kameez. infact if i was you i would have gone for a black shalwar kameez. good luck
Haha..reminds me of that HIMYM episode, where this dating agency takes Ted's data and puts it in a computer to find him a match.
Yeah why not. There is no such single muslim event in UAE but ladies from Pakistan association do this service where they collect the data from guys and girls families and match them and exchange their contact details. The parties then contact each other and visit each other if the primary data like age, education, height matches the criteria of the other party.
Yeah why not. There is no such single muslim event in UAE but ladies from Pakistan association do this service where they collect the data from guys and girls families and match them and exchange their contact details. The parties then contact each other and visit each other if the primary data like age, education, height matches the criteria of the other party.
