hey gupshuppers..i wanted to know some stuff abt going to ur in laws house for the first time. how are u supposed to act? what do u wear? do u talk a lot or a little? anythin else u should know before u go?
thanks for the help!
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Are you married already? Or engaged?
I think you can wear something that is nice and formal, but not heavy or too sparkly. Be polite and friendly and interested. Is there any reason that you feel so uncertain about this visit?
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im not even engaged yet, i must have worded that wrong. its just a visit to their house before things are final i guess
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^ Okay, so wear something nice, but nothing sparkly or fancy, just nice quality and what suits you and what you feel pretty/comfy in.
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Good Luck Incognito21- I remember how nerve racking that was!! Just enjoy yourself though and take all the special attension you will be getting bc this time wont come back! And just act like how you normally are but try and be someone that you are not. Dont worry IA everythings going to go great!
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are u supposed to help with like picking up the dishes off the table, etc? no right? just sit there and respond to questions is what i assume
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I have a similar question... when future in-laws come over, how do you make it less awkward?
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are u supposed to help with like picking up the dishes off the table, etc? no right? just sit there and respond to questions is what i assume
It doesn't hurt to offer. I would.
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hey gupshuppers..i wanted to know some stuff abt going to ur in laws house for the first time. how are u supposed to act? what do u wear? do u talk a lot or a little? anythin else u should know before u go? thanks for the help!
i wont recommend you to go before getting into a relationship :)
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Be moderate in everything.
Dont go beyond expectations.
That's it! :)
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I really wouldnt recommend you to go before anything is final. That said, be normal but more subdued than usual. Listen and observe more, talk less, but keep a smile on your face throughout!
Offer to help serve but don't go washing dishes. You need to remain at all times in the same room / area your parents are in or within sight and earshot of them.
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1) Dress conservative. Ask for you fiance's guidance on what to wear. He knows what his parents like and don't like....I imagine he's heard them make "comments" over the years.
2) Be super polite and respectful. Be aware of your body language and facial expressions.
3) Ask general questions and answer their questions but PLEASE think before you say anything. I learned this the hard way. My future in-laws asked me a question regarding the wedding and I answered it honestly without thinking...and they freaked out. Right now fiance and I are going through hell trying to fix my "mistake"(my mistake was being honest....even fiance agress that I should've lied!). So please think before you speak.
4) When you see the mom doing anything in the kitcken/dining table (setting it up for dinner....clearning it etc.)...yes, definitely offer to help. Even if all you're doing and carrying dishes to and from the kitchen...OFFER to help.
5) If your parents are with you....stay as close to them as possible.
6) Ask your fiance questions regarding his parents personalities. What are their pet peeves? What are their priorities? What are their expectations? Again I imagine your fiance has heard them make comments all his life about other girls...guests etc. Your fiance is the best person to prepare you for the visit b/c he knows his parents and knows what will "impress" them.
Good luck! :)
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^he's not her fiancee.
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^he's not her fiancee.
You're right...I just saw the 2nd post.
To OP:
Although things are not final, I assume that you're in a position to talk to the guy (over phone, e-mail, chatting whatever). If you're in a position to ask the guy for help...I strongly recommend you take that opportunity. But if you're not in a position to communicate with the guy about this....the ignore that part of my "advice". :)
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Agree with dem and paheli, although paheli, she might not be talking to her to be fiance at that level yet?
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I really wouldnt recommend you to go before anything is final. That said, be normal but more subdued than usual. Listen and observe more, talk less, but keep a smile on your face throughout!
Offer to help serve but don’t go washing dishes. You need to remain at all times in the same room / area your parents are in or within sight and earshot of them.
:k: very well said…fully agreed
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Agree with dem and paheli, although paheli, she might not be talking to her to be fiance at that level yet?
True. I'd be curious to hear from OP what the situation is. Is this a totally arranged rishta? Or is it more towards a love marriage situation?
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@OP please visit Bourn Ultimatum thread that will give you lots of clues.
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@ OP: why did you post this thread under wedding section. It shoule be in life 1.
Anywasy, following is survival guide for you. :@:
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it more towards a love marriage..i also thought we shouldnt go but i guess its imp to go before making any decisions? thanks for ur help everyone