going to in laws house for the first time

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^There's no harm in going if they have invited you.

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There's no prob with going to see them! At some point, it has to happen :)
Wear something nice - i guess dawat wear but not something you'd wear at Eid (so something nice but not full of kaam and shiny stuff).
Talk to your guy aswell and see what he/they like.. I'm sure he's told you about how his parents are (i.e. if they're more conservative or if they're really outgoing etc)

Be yourself and go with the flow. If you think everyone is super talkative, you should talk too... always be in moderation. Don't talk too much and just be careful that you don't say anything that will be offensive to anyone (same case as if you were meeting anyone for the first time really... not just inlaws).
Feed off the energy you get from your inlaws - so if they're all outgoing and carefree, you can be slightly more relaxed (I know some MILS prefer DILS that are loud and outgoing... whereas others prefer demure/subdued)

Just remember to be respectful and polite :) that's all that really matters...

Do offer to help... but I'm sure they will tell you they're fine. Doesn't hurt to offer... it's just being polited :) as if you were at some other aunties house, I'm sure you'd offer to help out n stuff

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My in laws (to be) came over a few weeks ago...omg AWKWARD, i didn't know what to say or do and my mum kept giving me things to put on the table and i cudnt walk in the heels :s

An his mum kept staring at me haha...but Inshallah weddings bells soon! Good Luck Incognito! x

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ok i would also want to wear heels, but dont you think its weird to wear them at home ? :s

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wouldn't you wear them at a dawat?

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If its more towards love marriage....then definitely ask your guy for help. No one can give you more insight into his parents than him right now. We can give you advice on outfits and simple etiquette....but he can give you information on their expectations/wants from their future daughter-in-law.

Good luck! :)

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I think you and your family should go especially if they have given you a dawat its important so they dont think you are rude. Also I agree with others you can use this an an opportunity to see what the situation is like over there! ;)

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Ha ha your story was funny it reminded me of when the guys side came over for the baat paaki - I too was wearing really pretty high heels but when it got time to put the khana on the table I was about to fall and so I had to put on my ghar ke chapals unless I wanted the biryani to be all over the floor!

Good luck supergirl - IA wedding bells will be in your future soon!!!:)

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Hehe thanks Pathan26...now i'm dreading the engagement because i have not met half of the 50 members of his immediate family, so i don't know if i have to act like a bride or sit around like normal....eeek!

Plus he said he's going to laugh at me when i walk into the room :-(

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its just rude to wear ur heels/shoes at someones house when there is carpet and at my ouwn home, its just feels weird to be weraing ur shoes instead of slipper sor something even if there isnt any carpet...

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^never heard that before. people take shoes off sometimes, but usually not in these kinds of occasions.

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^ would it not depend on whether the in-laws take off their shoes usually in the home? In my house, we do, and I find it weird if guests wear their shoes into the house - but we have carpet. It's best to fit in with what is norm for the in-laws, because it will put the OP in a favourable position. Little things like these can count.

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^ OH I agree. I'm just saying that it's weird to avoid wearing heels at all BECAUSE of this issue.

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^ Oh ok, sorry I got the wrong end of the stick :halo:I see where you’re coming from and agree.

To the OP: any shoes you wear should be one’s which come off easily…the amount of times I’ve worn shoes that weren’t strapless and the amount of time it took to take them off…:mad:

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yeah I actually didn't think the shoe thing was a big deal until ...I discussed it with friends. When some guys family came over my mom kept asking me if I was going to wear shoes and I said no because in my house we don't do that. So I didn't, but I thought it was a weird question I was talking to my friends about it a few days ago and they were shocked that I was walking around with nangay payr when the rishta came...but I don't get it....

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thanks for everyones help! actually they live in a different state so its a little complicated! thanks for all the advice again :)

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I think nangay payr would be weird too.

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hahah now i keep thinking about how weird they thought it was! lol errr theyre coming again with larka in a few days perhaps i should wear jootay!

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how did the visit go?

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lol @ the poster who wore heels! Funny story. When my in laws came i wore socks LOL but that's because i forgot to take them off because i'd been wearing them around the house. Yeah how did the visit go? what did you wear? What shoes did you wear? lol