Going through hoops to get married

rosedreams · March 15, 2012, 7:24pm

Re: Going through hoops to get married

aww mashAllah lucky u! u have to tell us some more!

So my story goes like this.
I was new in US going through the usual grinding of this newly adopted country. Working at a gas station working at a fast food joint , sending money back home etc. I had the best possible education from back home , but that was worthless in US. So I was home sick , poor and depressed , then I saw this girl who was homely , charming and belonged to a decent family, that was love at first sight so I proposed to her family but they rejected. Now I was heart broken too and very miserable.
I pleaded to the family but they will not budge.
Then out of the blue after a few weeks I got phone call from my to be eldest SIL to come over to their home for dinner and they asked to send my family to their family with the proposal back home where their mother was. I did and they accepted.
Now I wanted to know what made them change their mind and found out that my eldest SIL’s husband’s view of me was that I was very talented and had what it takes to be successful in US and he thought that I had a bright future so based on his judgement of me they accepted the proposal.
His assessment was not wrong though. He became my mentor and best friend. He was very experienced and seasoned man and he had spent lot of time in this country. May Allah rest his soul. Ameen. He is in the heaven now.

There are many other twists and turns in the story but I cannot share everything because of fear of exposure of my identity.