Are we allowed (according to Islam) to go out with different guys before choosing one for our self?
Just so we know the guy and are willing to compromise and get along with his habits.
This should be posted in RELIGIOUS FORUM. MODERATOR kahan hian app? I have the answer to this question according to islam...i ll post that in about 30 mins. laterz...
HARooN
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Ok here it is...is it 30 mins yet? oh well...
Dating is forbidden in Islam for many reasons. First of all, the children should know that the prohibition is something they should be proud of because it preserves the sanctity, dignity, respect, and chastity of the human being and of the society at large. Any person would agree that if dating was not so common nowadays, then, the non- Muslim society wouldn't be experiencing so many problems with teenage pregnancies,(today it was in news that this rate is ON THE RISE more and more teens are getting pregnant.) children left abandoned to orphanages or foster homes, single parenthood and so on. In addition, even if dating didn't involve sexual relations, all the acts that dating may lead a couple to do, such being alone, touching, kissing, etc. are clearly prohibited and condemned in Islam. As you know, Islam encourages marriage, ethical behavior, and the preservation of the family, and dating contradicts with one or all of these goals. A couple who dates is not under any obligation to get married, and this wastes the time of one or both of them to establish a family. Also, social studies have proved that dating, which some people claim is necessary for a couple to know each other before marriage, doesn't lead to happier and more successful marriages. The most obvious evidence about this claim is that in the North America and Europe, where dating is the highest in the world, divorce rate is also the highest. But this doesn't mean that a Muslim couple who wants to get married doesn't have the right to know each other. Instead, while getting to know each other, they don't date, they respect the Islamic guidelines, and are together for the purpose of getting married. Also, since dating may lead to committing adultery, God had warned us in many verses in the Qur'an from approaching it. This is confirmed in many verses such as in Surah al-Isra' (17) Verse 32; Surah an-Nour (24) verses 2-3; Surah al-Furqan (25) verse 68; Surah al-Mumtahina (60) verse 12. Of course, there are many Hadiths prohibiting physical contact, fornication/adultery, and being alone with the opposite sex between non-Mahrams.
1-inter-cultural and inter-racial marriages, 2-inter-religious marriages, and 3-dating. In regards to the first issue (inter-cultural and inter-racial relationships), Islamic law doesn't have any problem with people from different cultures or races to get married. There is no feeling of superiority or inferiority in the minds of Muslims because the basic guideline is that the best person in the site of God is the one who is most pious and not the one who is the richest or the most beautiful or who comes from a certain family or race or culture. As to the issue of inter-religious marriages, Islam allows a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim girl who is from the People of the Book (i.e., a Christian or a Jewish girl) but not a girl who is from non-monotheistic religions such as a Hindu or a Buddhist girl. Still, the non-Muslim girl from the People of the Book must not be hostile to Islam and the children have to be raised Islamically. Thank you, have a nice read, good luck.
HARooN
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As this post is not in the religion section I'd say dating is allowed.
ciao,
BoSS
I agree with what haroon has said.
But I think that the question didn't mention about unislamic things like touching/kissing.
What if a person dates and keeps in limits and totally islamic?
Is that meeting allowed?
keeping in mind that they may decide not marry after that.
Do you...yahooooooo!!! ?
Dating is fine. Just make sure the 2 aren't behind a closed door......that's when it's haram since the presence of Shaitan works there. movies, restaurant dinners, going out public is fine.
Dating is NOT fine...couple who are UNMARRIED and are not related can NOT meet in private, iF they have to meet, it should be infront of everyone(family) someone should be there, NOT alone, its prohibted. SOMEPEOPLE change and try to make it the way they want to, but islam doesnt say that, you can meet and date alone...i think they are preaching what they THINK is ok, but islam doesnt say that.
HARooN
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lets not forget the first thing about going out for a girl.. a girl cannot be in public without being in proper women attire (pardah).. now i am sure nobody can deny to that rule of islam as its well and clearly understood.. Now how many guyz are willing to take out a girl in hijaab for a date ??? and how can anyone every say that dating is allowed in islam if its not behind closed doors when even talking to a non mehram person is not allowed unless REALLY needed ?? i think we should be more responsible in associating things that we think are correct to islam .. saying that i think its ok would be more appropriate.. Thanks for reading..
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Com on Haroon yara,
give Kohal a break for once will ya??
Isnt there any exception here?
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(PS Kohal i tried…)
Read the first 2 posts again…please. and pathwarii break from what??? noone is arguing with her…every point is towards the issue/topic not anyone personally.
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HARooN
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As-salaamu 'Alaikum,
It is not allowed for a women to travel with someone who is not her mehram (close relative). Like you said dating is ok as long as not behind a closed door. This is wrong view and is totally unacceptable. Muslims, what is matter with you? Why are you in the acts of Jahyliyyah with the Kafirun. Dating is not permissible at all.
I'm glad someone did raise this issue...Dating is certainly an unislamic act.I dont know why people have this habbit of preaching about something,the way they like to practice it!well,Islam is what is found in Qur'an and Sunnah,so i guess one should be more careful while discussing religious matters as they are more sensitive than we even realize...!
Be Original~!
i thought kohal was a good example to all young muslim girls and boys , ............................obviously not! dating is forbidden for all the common sense islamic reasons mentioned by haroon.I can see how living in the west has resulted in people like kohal and pathwari compromising
their religion for such acts!!!!!!!!!!!!
may allah guide us all.
Pathwari bhai,
just to annoy some ppl out,
we should go out on a double date. Like, you with the future fiancee you mentioned & my…well…i’ll just call & pick someone out of the blue.
Sounds like a plan huh!?
god.
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really.
Really SufiM, let us be our own person, keeping in my mind that we are aware of the future persecutions we can face from Allah SWT. Yes i know you’re looking out for every muslim, thanks… but really, we have our mind to live by → I/We are supposed to live by our own life priciples which makes us ‘role models for young boys & girls.’ God knows how a lot of us are STILL trying to define our own priciples. & oh yes, that does also inlcude Islam’s rules, regulations, & morals.
do you really wan to go out on a double date kohal.Pathwari is a qadiani, maybe god will be happier if you go out with a muslim.......any offers... still not obssesed are you?......LOL .... jk , sorry pathwari!
you said we should not care abt others and let them have their own principles.When i look at some of the hindus i know who have become muslim irealise how important it is to care.
kh
Sufi most girls are ABCD… confused and unchanging… typical NAMELY muslims. Shame on them
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HARooN
HARooN>>>Chorr chori se jaye…haira-pehrii se na jaye<<<
men and women should date several people before selecting the right person.that is natural way . without indulging in pre-maritalsex how would you know other partner is normal? you dont want to find out after marrying
Dating is the wrong word to start with. Here is what Islam has to say about it:
If a man wants to marry a woman or vice versa he/she should approach the other and propose. The correct way would be to go through the parents/guardians etc. Once that is done both the parties have an equal right to accept or reject each other. In order to meet and getting to know each other they can go out multiple times in presence of another adult to keep a watch on them from a distance. The boy has a right islamically in asking the girl to take off her hijab (head cover) for him, provided he is very seriously interested in her after a meeting or two. All this is allowed and valid. Islam is a practical and beautiful religion whom we have made unbearable for ourselves. If the intention is to marry then all is allowed and if the intention is to just fool around then you are committing a major sin.
There is no such thing as DATING in Islam.
Dating is prohibited in islam as far as the religion is concerned. The main thing is that your partmer should take care of you in good times or bad, respect your feelings, be honest and sinceare and should fulfill all your sexual desires, the same goes for men too.