Re: giving money to inlaws
its makes sense for your husband to first make something of himself before starting to send money. what use will that money be to his parents if they find out that after sending it to them he is struggling? once you have settled down (inshalla) and can afford to send them money then do so.
second point, his parents may never ask him to send them money but it will make them feel proud when he does. my brother gave most of his first paycheck to my mum (she doesnt need it, may i add) and the rest he distributed amongst the family i.e me my nephews bhabi, and got my dad a present. when i asked him why he gave us all of the money he had earned, he said 'mum and dad are the reason i earned this money by paying for my education and making me the man i am today, and you guys are my family and i want to share my happiness with you'. i thought this was uber cute...very thoughful of him.