IMO I think they should buy gifts for them and not give money since they are not in need of it. Of course it would be entirely different if they couldnt afford things. Some parents may get offended by such a gesture. I know my parents would have.
Why your brother and father are telling him what he should do. Its dhud be between your husband and his parents.
well I think that is considerate of them to suggest something like that. dont u think? how many samduns think like that let alone suggest it.