Re: Giving milk to groom (Doodh Pillai)
Re: Giving milk to groom (Doodh Pillai)
in my family doodh pilai rasms are done on a whole different day. like its own function lol...i guess its just diff for everyone
Re: Giving milk to groom (Doodh Pillai)
I dont have sisters but i do have 2 bhabis i am close to, so can they do the doodh pilai & joota chupayi for me or that would be awkward?
Re: Giving milk to groom (Doodh Pillai)
I dont have sisters but i do have 2 bhabis i am close to, so can they do the doodh pilai & joota chupayi for me or that would be awkward?
no dear..it wont be awkward. at my sister's wedding, i was only 5 years old so my bhabi did the doodh pilai and my khala did the joota chupayi.
Re: Giving milk to groom (Doodh Pillai)
ATleast all this is common tradition , on my cuzs mehndi after the Rasm is over someone hit him with an egg. And then one more and again and again , until at least a dozen of them were thrown on him , ruining his clothes , it got stuck in his hair and everything.It was awful. and smelling.
PLUS it made it worse cuz we didn’t even know about this Rasm and he was furious. Thankfully it was in his sisters house so he could have a shower and had to change into his BIL’s clothes.
Later I mentioned this to a family friend who was of the same community and she said this was standard and two outfits also came when the groom arrived. Personally i think it’s uncouth , I mean eggs?!
Ya i know a girl she got 1000$ for dhood pilayi and 1000$ for joota chupayi the same day and she only had one sister so she got 2000 dollars to herself but i didnt think the guys family was too happy with giving the money seemed like they were just doinv it to get it over with which is not the point right.
I really like these kind of rasms but I don't think my mother in law approves cause she doesn't think it's Islamic and stuff so we will have a pretty dull wedding :( cause I want to respect her wishes even though she hasn't said that to me or my parents but I know through my sister in law and even myfiance was like that is fine my sisters can do the Rasm it won't be a big deal but I'd rather not I guess if I know she doesn't like it. My youngest sister is 6 and my other sister told her abt this rasm so she was super excited abt it and she has all these plans to give him milk and steal his shoes it's so cute and then I was like how much money do u want? Shes like 11 dollars cause that's my fav number haha and then I told her how she has to share that money with my other two sisters and she was like no way I'm not sharing tell them to bring their own glasses of milk hahahaha. She's the cutest thing ever! But since I didn't want tohave this rasm cause of his mom he said he wants to do it and will do it after the valima once we are at my parents house for the first time or something. I thought that was so sweet of him to do this for my sister but ya it's not really about the money. For me I love the concept and how it's just fun cause otherwise our weddings are so dull.. but if not everyones happy with it it's better to not have it cause I hate how people think it's for the money. I'm sure my baby sister would be happy if he gave her a quarter and so would I. So there should be a proper way and limit to these that's the only way it all seems good.
Re: Giving milk to groom (Doodh Pillai)
I've only one sister, so I got all the money to myself.:DI got around £100, and I guess that is still the going rate these days. I love all the rasms (minus the taking of the shoes, which has never been done in my family). When my sister got married, her SIL didn't want the rang rasm being done on the day of the nikkah, but we still drenched her in colour; and she didn't mind one bit.
Btw, the dhoodh pillai for my family is more of a 'breaking the ice' between the two families, and getting everybody on a happy medium with one another.