Re: giving milk to groom
My mom didn't let us do any rasms on my siblings' wedding.
She informed our side of the family and the in-laws of my siblings prior to the wedding as she didn't know any rasms (which is SO true) nor did she want any at the wedding. I think this was a wise decision from her side because...errm let me not go there.
But the in-laws did all the rasms that they wanted to in their own house. So all was good for the most part.