Re: Giving birth then moving back to live with inlaws/ parents for 4 wks. - ur experi
I really don’t understand why you refuse to use your husband to create more distance. The next time your mother calls you, if you husband is with you, have HIM answer the phone. He can say something like “Babybird is taking a nap/in the shower whatever but I saw you calling. Is everything ok? Can I help you with something?”. And if your husband is not home, do not answer the phone, but call her back when HE gets home! Mention in the conversation that he’s home and is waiting of for you to give him food/watch TV with him/go out for a walk etc. but you wanted to make sure you returned her call. Ask her if she would like to say Salaam so your husband while she’s on the phone. EVERY SINGLE TIME she calls, make sure you get your husband to talk to her one way or another.
If your husband is ok with you getting a maid now, DO IT! Get the help so you have more time for yourself and the child you already have before the baby is here. This way the maid also knows how you want things done and does not have to be told/taught anything when baby is here.
You already have one child and about to have another. It’s about time you start standing up for yourself. You have plenty of solutions to deal with your mother/family. For whatever reason you’re just not utilizing them.