Giving birth then moving back to live with inlaws/ parents for 4 wks. - ur experience

[Babybird]

Re: Giving birth then moving back to live with inlaws/ parents for 4 wks. - ur experi

@StrangeOne

Do it. We’ve gone to plenty of post baby houses where the mother couldn’t come down because she was feeding the baby or having a bath or something else and sometimes the husband would bring down the baby with no show from the mother. It’s not odd at all.

And even though you’re trying to be different you’re still conforming yourself to your mother’s norms. You don’t have to do everything her way, you do know that, right? She may not be physically there but her shadow is over a lot of your thought process.

I’ve not known it any other way. My mother lives 5 mins away and calls me daily. If I could I would seperate myself more from her but I’ve tried in the past only for my father to get involved. I always come across as being the rude one when I have my own ideas/ opinions. It will take time.

Pinks- my husband said to me weeks ago- look baby bird leave it all down to me. No one will be stressing you out as I won’t let them. I should give him more credit for wanting to help. My mother is very cautious with him as he rarely speaks out to her so when he does she is in shock. I have seen her behaviour change towards me in recent years and it’s primarily down to not giving my partner a bad impression.