Cousin mariages are halal. It's the parents who probably messed up by letting the kids grow up together thinking they are siblings--they're not. Anyways, i think im the only one of my generation (in the family i mean) who doesnt ffind cousin marriages gross but that's jsut me.
God bless you
Nice to see yet another religiously-correct comment attached to my comment plus the hardcore urdu does add weight to it.
Having said that, I dont remember saying anywhere that it is against the religion OR that Pakistani society doesnt accept it. What I said was that this concept varies from family to family, some cousins are brought up like siblings, some are not.
Agree with you with one minor conflict...
Your glass is half full and mine is half empty.......LOL
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I'm sorry but I find the idea really disturbing. I would never ever get married within the family. The best way to get out of it is to use the following line:
" Mom/Dad Fareed to mera bhai hai. Cousins bhai hotay hain. Bhai se to shadi nahin hosakti na"
Guaranteed insan bach jata hai. Mere dad ne bhi apni cousin se bachne kaliyae yehi line boli thi :@:
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Here I go with the Infractions again.....lol (running out of good nicks man)
Thank you Sara516
I have never liked the idea of marrying one of my own cousins. But my parents did give me to one of my cousins against my will. I did like him, but not as a husband...
As it turned out, I was right about him. They should never have married me to him. Now I'm divorced alhamdu lilah. If I ever get married again, it will be my own choice and someone outside my family, insha Allah.
Cousin mariages are halal. It's the parents who probably messed up by letting the kids grow up together thinking they are siblings--they're not.
That's they way my parents raised me. My mother used to say that all her brothers and sisters aren't just my uncles and aunties, but that I should regard them as my own parents too. And most of my cousins and me used to call each other pin/pra, bhin/bhay. Not all of us did that, but even when we did only use each others name to communicate, we still did regard each other as brothers and sisters. That's what our mothers used to say, "he's your brother, she's your sister".
I was given to one of my cousins in marriage. I liked him as a cousin, not as a husband. Besides, the idea of that brother figure suddenly becoming a husband was something I had trouble getting used to! Only now I'm beginning to regard cousins as only cousins instead of brothers too. I keep telling myself, my cousins aren't my brothers, they are only cousins. My families attitude is changing nowadays on that issue.
I think in the future there will be less cultural problems for Pakistanis living outside Pakistan, because the next generation of parents will be the ones who were mostly born and grew up outside Pakistan too, so they will understand the cultural differences and the feelings of their children better.
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The children born to your father or mother ONLY are your brothers/sisters.
Cousin marriages are permissible, but they're becoming a taboo owing to other religio-cultural influences on our society. Cousin/clan - only marriage, however, is a disturbing issue and should be opposed fiercely.
I agree with all those who said cousin marriage is allowed in quran.
Agar koi is qabil hoti cousins main jinko main ahmiaat deta hoon to zaoor karta shadi. Agar meri maan ki ijazat hoti to.
Shadi karnay main koi na mana hai na muzaiqa bamutabiq quran o clutre e pakistan.
Wo jin kay gharon main Bhai bahan kaha gia to us say kia farq parta hai rehtay to wo cousin hi hain. I agree kay yay hard hota ho ga accept karnay main kay jinko Bhai ya bahan samjha bilkul sagon ki tarha unko as a wife/husband samjhain.
Parents ko buchchon ko bhai bahan kahnay main aur honay ka farq zaroor batana chahyay buchchon main. Agar larkay larkion main faslay rakhay jain to mera naheen khiaal kay koi masla banaay.
Hamain bhi hamaray parents nain bhai bahan hi bataya tha cousin ko per hum mingle naheen huway itna kay shadi ki baat hoti to koi farq parta.
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Ive been in Usa i guess since i was 8 ..so i gues thats bred abroad..nothing agsinst cousin marriages but my cousins are CHAWAL
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I think marrying cousins is not just a genetic issue when you have kids but it's a bigger problem than that.
My hubby's cousins married each other. The kids are fine. However, the biggest problem in their relationship is the guy cousin and the girl cousins have had several marital problems and obviously it has affected the parents relationship with each others siblings.
The guy always wants the girl's parents to take care of "things" cause they live in the neighborhood. While the guys parents are back home - and he sends them money as much as possible.
so there has been tension within the parent siblings in these type of relationships. It's awful.