girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?

[Princess1983]

Re: girls-would you let your husband marry again or divorce him?

@Deeba1234

I’d divorce him and leave him to marry whoever he wants.. the thought of him staying with me out of pity or some twisted sense of ‘loyalty’ only because I’ve had to talk him out of marrying a second wife makes me feel a bit sick.. the guy would prob be fantasising about it quite a bit if he had brought it up himself in the first place imo and not much worse than him thinking of another woman when he’s in bed with me.. My SIL has an uncle who has two wives. He did actually want wife no.2 all along but was forced into marring wife no.1 from ‘back home’ (cousin I think). He originally asked wife no.1 for a straight out divorce but she apparently said she couldn’t handle the stigma of it and having to leave the UK lol so gave him the go-ahead to marry the other woman (nikah only).. Being honest neally every story I’ve heard of involving polygyny is messy and nasty.. kids end up hating their dads and feeling bitter at him for not being around when they needed him and then the resentment the mum feels at being replaced by a younger model.. There is the odd happy ending here and there but it does seem to be a very small percentage.. Sorry, can’t seem to split into paragraphs

Coming from a family where my w***ker of a biological father married two women I agree with Deebas thoughts and feelings.

Getting married 4 times is a right in Islam, but which other bit of Islam do such men practice? Do they perform salah 5 times a day? Read the quran daily? Lower their gaze when they see women? Give generously to charity? Give an orphan a supporting hand? Well in my fathers situation he didn’t do anything and the income support system of England raised his kids-because he had so many he didn’t earn enough to maintain them.

Given the fact of my childhood, if my husband was to bring up second marriage I would ask him to leave the property, change the locks, file for divorce and gradually move on.

He may have the right to 4 wives, but I also have the right to have a happy balanced marriage where there is two people raher than 3, 4,5,6 in the equation.