Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
I think most women look for security and comfort, not just looks. But that's probably just my opinion.
lol! no comments.
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
Yes, and he would have no issues with me doing the same. In fact I do it all the time, I work in a male dominated industry and all my friends are from work. So on days when I feel like going to lunch I will grab one of my many male friends and head out. It usually is social. A lot of them are better looking than my husband, or smarter or whatever, I'm not looking for someone else, so it doesn't make much of a difference.
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
Yes, and he would have no issues with me doing the same. In fact I do it all the time, I work in a male dominated industry and all my friends are from work. So on days when I feel like going to lunch I will grab one of my many male friends and head out. It usually is social.** A lot of them are better looking than my husband, or smarter or whatever, **I'm not looking for someone else, so it doesn't make much of a difference.
That may be but it's never a good idea to let your man feel that way. I would never think about or say that to my husband and we go WAY back..It's great that you feel this secure in your marriage. I, however, wouldn't even want to be in such a marriage where he can have social lunches with other women and FEEL and SAY they are better looking and smarter than me. There's no doubt there are better looking and smarter women than myself our there, but for him to say that to me or feel that about me is insensitive and disrespectful. It goes beyond just having insecurities.
It is exactly this level of comfort I would like to avoid in my marriage. We can cuss each other out but I would never willingly want to show him the other side of the fence, why may or may not be greener.
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
No, not really.. Every relationship is different. I and my husband have been together for almost 8 years. We pretty much grew up knowing each other. He and I never dated other people. Honestly, we don't know what it's like to go out on a date with another person. Why would I then let my man have lunch with another woman and possibly introduce him to the world of dating. :D Yes, we both are a little insecure when it comes to this. Deep down I know he will never fall for another woman and he knows I won't fall for another guy. Why would I risk what I have for a stupid lunch? I just know it's not okay with him and I respect him enough to refuse to go on lunch with another dude at work. I work with ALL men. They ask me every damn day to have lunch with them. I don't! Do I want to? Sometimes and I have no hidden motives to do so but I still don't
I am only speaking from my perspective. I am not passing fatwas here and there for everyone.
You are contradicting yourself. Deep down you are not secure, deep down you know he CAN fall for another woman and you are jealous. You cab try to reciprocate the same behavior to justify it but that doesn't counter that fact that you have a mindset of a backward, possessive male and it matters little whether you use religion for it or you do not.
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
You are contradicting yourself. Deep down you are not secure, deep down you know he CAN fall for another woman and you are jealous. You cab try to reciprocate the same behavior to justify it but that doesn't counter that fact that you have a mindset of a backward, possessive male and it matters little whether you use religion for it or you do not.
I think you are right. I might not be so open to the idea and that's purely because neither of us ever dated prior to meeting each other. We just don't know what's outside of our relationship. I really don't see this as an insecurity but if that's what being insecure means so be it :D
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
in the office cafeteria - yes.
in some random deli or pizzeria - yes
In some schmancy restaurant where I haven’t eaten before - no. 
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
I occasionally go out to eat with a male co worker. We get sick of eating cafeteria food in our offices and just want to get out. If there is something scrumptious, I pack take aways for my hubby.
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
No problemo. I have ways of telling if he ever gets out of line
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
That may be but it's never a good idea to let your man feel that way. I would never think about or say that to my husband and we go WAY back..It's great that you feel this secure in your marriage. I, however, wouldn't even want to be in such a marriage where he can have social lunches with other women and FEEL and SAY they are better looking and smarter than me. There's no doubt there are better looking and smarter women than myself our there, but for him to say that to me or feel that about me is insensitive and disrespectful. It goes beyond just having insecurities.
It is exactly this level of comfort I would like to avoid in my marriage. We can cuss each other out but I would never willingly want to show him the other side of the fence, why may or may not be greener.
I would never really say to my husband that I was hanging out with someone better looking, smarter, etc. than him. Those are just some facts that I'm stating now. I don't think it has to do with comfort necessarily; he could easily be hanging out with women who are prettier than me, or smarter, or friendlier or whatever but I married my husband for the unique package that is him and hopefully he did the same with me. I would be naive to think that my husband is perfect or the only one I could ever have married, but I love him and he is the one I have chosen for whatever reasons. Thats why for me going out with other guys I don't really compare their qualities to my husband as such because its irrelevant, I'm not looking to replace him.
That being said, there are no guarantees in life, I cannot guarantee that he won't spend time with another women and fall in love with her instead, nor can I guarantee that for myself, except I'm pretty certain that I would never do such a thing and nor would I. I trust that we love each other and we are whats best for each other, but I'm hardly all knowing. In that scenario though obviously if you don't spend any time alone with someone of the opposite sex, you're probably guaranteed it won't happen at all, so its safer for sure.
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
I had lunch with pretty co-worker today. If i don’t come back tomorrow to post on GS tu mera naam shaheedoon main likh daina 
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
oh d6, you said "pretty". now you are dead. even the most open-minded women who trust their husband to dine with a naked coworker on a bed would be mad if you think she's "pretty". -_-
Re: Girls, would U be ok with Ur hubby having a work lunch alone with a woman coworke
Makes perfect sense. Best post in this thread. Thanks for writing! :k: