Girls - What would you be okay with?

Lifestyle Relationships
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1 - A husband who does not pay much attention to you or give much quality time but gives you all the money to shop and the liberty to maintain house which ever way you want & live your life your way.

2 - A husband who gives you quality time, takes care of you & listens BUT does not necessarily spend fortunes on you.

Basically what is more important:
Money & freedom that husband gives VERSUS Love & attention he gives?

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2 - A husband who gives you quality time, takes care of you & listens BUT does not necessairly spend fortunes on you.
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this...quality time and listening r fortunes....

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

2 defo.

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

NUMERO UNO for sure!!!!!

Since he doesn't pay attention to you nor hang around you........you have more freedom to secretly find a guy who will treat you right.....whilst still enjoying the luxurious lifestyle provided by the former. The best of both worlds :D

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

MONIES and FREEDOMS

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

I want it all! I want the attention the love and the freedom to be myself as a person, but willing to make compromises as marriage is built on give and take and understanding.

If I had to choose it would be number - 2, I have enough capacity to afford myself thanks to Allah and my Parents for educating me and making me a independant women.

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

What about love and attention for the first two years of marriage and then freedom and MONIES?

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

But I like the love and attention, so if there was no love and attention after 2 years, I would feel a bit worried hes giving his love and attention somewhere else! I guess the "honeymoon period" doesn't last but come on!

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Both 1 and 2. No compromises :D

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

Money matters more in later years of your married life because you have kids and stuff. For example, I never thought of letting my husband work outside the country or even the city but now that we need more money coz of kids' education etc I wouldn't mind him working internationally. Besides, kids have grown up so I don't feel lonely anymore, I know the love and attention is still there but it's divided big time and I'm okay with it.

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I guess Hareem, I am not in the situation so I can only but make assumptions that I want this and that, but I do understand its very hard to strike a balance.

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  1. i'll mary the rich old guy and toy around with the hot younger guy.
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Number 2 definitely. I wouldn't go for number 1 because after some time, money will buy you all those luxuries, but you will soon be bored and crave attention and love (although, number 2 can also become boring after a while....hmmmm.....hard to strike a balance between the two, I want both :))

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you know if he cares he will be able to pull out enough to gift u a sparkle or two because thats one way of showing affection

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Re: Girls - What would you be okay with?

1 AND 2 OBVIOUSLY

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Obv 2nd one is the option to go for, for atleast sane people:)

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2. That's the great thing about being educated/spending time on building a career before getting married.

Having a husband that loves you and pays attention to you....BUT you dont need his money since you make your own...which itself gives you freedom. :)

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^

So you're okay with you working and your husband staying at home?

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Option 2 is possible only when both you and your spouse are millionaires and don't need to work from 9 to 5 everyday. lol

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i kind of agree with hareem! honestly the love and attention vanishes if you know you have to struggle with finances and cope with household expenses. groceries etc.

When a person is constantly preoccupied with the thoughts of empty bank accounts and long overdraft dues - the honeymoon period isnt anywhere to be seen. This might sound a bit shallow - but it is kind of true :/