Well, previously I thought I’d like a nice big wedding, as in the bigger the better, but from what I’ve seen from weddings in Pakistan, big weddings get so impersonal and with all 500 members of your extended family around, everything just loses it’s touch. I think they unnecessarily spend too much money. Wouldn’t you rather use the money after you get married, or for some other good cause? Like feed 500 poor people instead of 500 already robust relatives?
So I’d like a quiet nikka, but a nice walima (close family and friends) so you know I can dress up and be center of attention and take lotsa pictures and show off my beautiful husband.
I dunno…maybe when it comes down to the crunch things might be different.
I want a verrrrrrrrry small wedding with only between 50-100 people in attendance. I want it to be elegant yet simple. I have been to weddings in the past (Pakistani weddings) where the bride's family hires professional dancers for the wedding day. That was a little much in my opinion. I only want close family and friends in attendance. I would rather use the money spent on a large and luxurious wedding to go on an extended honeymoon or put a downpayment on a house! :)
really Mehnaz Q, I've never actually witnessed people hiring out professional dancers, but heard it happens. What is the point? Is there a big competition as to who spends the most money on their weddings?
hmcq, well whoever he is, he'll always be attractive in my eyes. if not, I'll buy him a gym membership as a wedding present and feed him rabbit food. :D
what do you mean a cheap wedding? okay, I wouldn't go to the extent of just keeping it totally between just us and our parents. A girl does want to do some special things on her wedding. It all depends really on circumstances I guess. As in if you're pressed for time you don't end up doing as much.
i want a bigggggggggg wedding with lots and lots of people…friends…relatives…and others…and lots of humgama:p…cuz its YOUR wedding u know…and its now or never:D…
Ask the guys? Well we know what they'll say, spend as little as possible and we can save the money to buy a nice house/car etc.
And anyway, the wedding is all about the girl, but I guess if there is a mutual agreement as to how you want your wedding it's much better. Atleast that way both hubby and wife are satisfied and you know you're in sinc (sp?) with each other.
I believe in mutual consultation....but i prefer a small wedding..
more n more gals these days want small and elegant weddings..
its personal n better..
The Valima reception should be good-grand to be precise shadi bhi bas theek he honi chahiay. :~) No, to be honest, i personally want to enjoy my wedding myself as well, and not let just the guests do it. May be roam around and greet the guests and dance a bit too. :~)
what happened with me is that my husband was in oman..and we went there for my nikah..the nikah itself was very simple ( in mosque) ..and the omani court procedure registeration was simple as well..and both didn't had any pics..but for the immigration purposes..we ended up having a reception for 50-60 people..and when my family went to karachi, pakistan..they thought that we won't be able to go there..so my parents had a reception for their first cousins..which was about 120 people..and i knew each of them personally..so eventhough it was big..it provided me an opportunity to meet them all at once..under one roof..which was not possible in a 12 day trip.
Now hopefully, in this upcoming summer i might go to india..and again..we can't just leave out relatives..so we'll have another reception there for my relatives..and it will be 150-200 relatives..and yes i know them all personally...i have no clue how many people will be there in the valima...and once we come back here..we'll have another one in canada..
what can you do when you have so many relatives/family friends..and they are all close to you..and you have been to their weddings..how can you not invite them to yours..
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really Mehnaz Q, I've never actually witnessed people hiring out professional dancers, but heard it happens. What is the point? Is there a big competition as to who spends the most money on their weddings?
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Cat Woman, what I have noticed at Pakistani weddings is competition between the bride and grooms' families. Each side has to 'outdo' the otherside. They have gone to extreme lengths to do one-up on the otherside. For example, at the wedding I was talking about earlier, the bride's family hired professional dancers to keep the guests entertained after the nikkah. The following day, at the Walima, the groom's family had hired professional dholki players, dancers, musicians and singers to keep the guests entertained. After the wedding, of course, each party criticized the efforts of the other. It's all about showbaazi.
No, not all weddings are like this but I have seen about 4 weddings like this.
On the flip side, I have seen simple and elegant weddings as well. :)
It is important to ask the guy what he thinks about what kind of wedding he wants. Most guys tend to do whatever their parents want; they'll have 500 people show up at the wedding when in fact they actually wanted something smaller. So, it is important to take his wants into consideration. :)
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hmcq, well whoever he is, he'll always be attractive in my eyes. if not, I'll buy him a gym membership as a wedding present and feed him rabbit food. :D
shadi bhi bas theek he honi chahiay. :~) No, to be honest, i personally want to enjoy my wedding myself as well, and not let just the guests do it. May be roam around and greet the guests and dance a bit too. :~)
