girls the fear of...

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does anyone ever fear of getting raped by their dads or uncles because for example

the way the fathers or uncles look at them in a way in which they shouldn’t be or could be another reason, thats just one example i gave

and does anyone know of a girl who has been in such a situation?

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Um...maybe you need to talk to someone.

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Are you ok Star? I mean if you're in this situation you should get help.

It's sickening just thinking of it.

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well.....

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this is one messed up thread.

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Hi. I'm Chris Hansen. PM me with the juicy details.

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star, I'm going to take this at face value. The victim needs to speak out. If other members of the victim's family refuse or fail to take action, then the victim needs to get help from elsewhere. Depending on where the victim is, there are helplines for anonymous advice and refuge centres if it comes to that.

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i dunno y i started this thread, but i feel uncomfortable around them because of the way they look at me and plus im married as well so i dont open the door if my husbands not at home with me

i dunno it may be me just being paranoid

but something dont feel right and find it hard to talk to my husband because he just laughs and says dont be silly

but once my uncle was like standing in the hallway and looking through the room secretly and i was not aware until i looked and when i did look he realised and said hello and then just went to the kitchen where my husband was,

my uncle was there for quite a bit of time because hubby said he dissappeared for like 10 mins so i guess he mustve been there all that time

but why would my uncle just stand there and stare and as soon as he realised that i saw him there he had to say hello

from that day i dont let him or my father be in the house with me if my hubbys not with me

i dont know!!! confused!! am i just being paranoid or is it something to worry about

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and imagine if i weren't married something like that would totally ruin my life like no one to accept me but being married wont change that, it would still ruin my life, not to mention me not being able to trust anyone, because those people are the ones who are meant to protect me

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um how was ur upbringing? did u ever fear this from ur father when u were single/younger??

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^ star, thinking about things like 'oh what if I wasn't married' isn't going to do anything other than give rise to panic. Only you can figure out whether it is paranoia or something to worry about. Let go of the irrelevant thoughts.

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Star are you ok?

i dont know any girl in my life who has been through such situation but i have heard terrible news regarding this matter.

the person needs to stand against this asap before its too late.

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hmmmm its not your step father?

really your hubby should understand your concern rather than laughing it off.

at the moment what you are doing is right i.e. only meeting them in presence of your hubby. keep doing that.

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Are these new thoughts????? I hope to god nothing happened to you when you were younger.

Because if these thoughts just started coming than, yes, you're paranoid. And you need to spend your time keeping yourself busy and free of such thoughts, because this is not something which can be taken lightly.

If you really do not feel comfortable with them around than continue to never be alone with them.

Someone very close to me was abused by her father for many years until the family had the courage to stand up against him and kick him out of their lives. She is mA' very happy today, but I saw her go through all the pain, denial, pity from family, and shame all at once. You can always pm me if you would like to talk. I saw her being scared just like you around her father.

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That's what I'm wondering as well. Did these thoughts just recently enter your mind....or have you always felt uneasy around your uncle and father?

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**its a very serious issue if its TRUE and also very serious if its NOT true. u must have some solid reasons b4 u can malign ur uncle and father. have u ever been molested? have u ever been inappropriately touched? have they ever said anything inappropriate. i think u must talk it out with ur husband and also see a counselor. if ur apprehensions have a genuine basis then u must seek protection and if its ur paranoia then u must stop spreading this non-existent allegation.

u must seek professional help regardless! better now than later...its better to see a professional now than be sorry later. May Allah give u peace...aameen**

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For some odd reason i can never digest that a father would do something like this to his own daughter.

Shows how fu***d up this place is.

I would say just go by your instincts if you dont feel comfortable just ask them not to come to your place and avoid being alone with them at all costs.

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Maybe its just my upbringing but I could never think of a father looking at his daughter in such a manner. Its against the laws of nature. Plus if she hasn't been abused prior to this and all indications are she hasn't because she seems to relate events only after marriage.

Uncle creepy. Father no comments as of yet. Girl also a bit unhinged.

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errmm, gonna go out on a limb here but are we sure maybe she didnt mean father in law or stepfather? and not actual biological father who raised her?

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I am taking everything at face value. She said father. That is why I say the girl is a bit creepy too.