The answer is because we are brought up to have legitimate relationships with the opposite sex. Our mentality is shaped and molded by our parents, society, even our peers look down on us for hanging around a man they know isnt our brother or father. That is why every relationship needs to be defined for a woman...its not our low self-esteem...its our cultural standards that the SAME men follow who complain about women needing labels. These men do actually look down on a woman who has a casual relationship with a man...unless he is your brother...what he hell were you doing with that guy on so-and-so day at so-and-so time?
Sheynie, I know you are a good person. Your mother, father and family know you're a great girl who would never do anything wrong. But what about the people your parents know on a social level? Do they owe you forgiveness or any excuses for behavior they consider inappropriate? What about your family friends? Do they owe it to you to look past any rumors spread about you and consider your younger sister for their eligible son? After all, you are her sister, right? These are practical questions and scenarios that every girl has to be ready to deal with. Like it or not, its our society and if you choose to live within it, sometimes you have to play by some of the rules. *And the rules say...no hanky panky and no relationships outside of marriage. Now, lets say someone chooses to have a relationship outside of marriage...then they need to be ready to deal with the consequences...rumors, lots of backbiting, ruined reputation and not to mention your family suffering as a result. *
PM...women need to. Agar aap kisi se shaadi karenge to aap ye to nahin chahenge na ke us larki ke das bees nameless relationships hon apse pehle? Mein nahin samajti ke aap aisi larki mein interested honge. Mujhe pata hai ke aap batein itni karte hein lekin apko bhi koi achi si larki chahiye hai. Baqi apke upar.
You are right. The reality of the situation demands that unless you plan on disconnecting yourself from these societal pressures...you just have to live with them. Women need to be smart about these decisions. If a man proposes a casual relationship...its gonna stay that way. There is NO WAY a man will marry a woman he has a casual relationship with. At the end of the day Sheynie, he will marry a girl that can make him happy and his parents happy.
Yes, white chicks treat their men like hubbies but those relationships usually result in something. Either a break up or marriage. If you are white, you're not labeled as a slut if you date. If you are white, you can take your boyfriend home to meet your parents and even go on vacations with him! You can introduce your boyfriend to your friends, move in with him and NOT be labeled as a slut. You can have multiple boyfriends in your lifetime and its okay. Pre-marital sex is okay too. If a desi girl did all that...she would be ostrasized by her family and branded for life. She would have to get plastic surgery and move to a different state!
So PM, the standards that govern white chicks' lives are SO different from those that govern our desi girls' lives. Its unfair for you to compare the two. If a desi girl agreed to date you indefinitely, was open about it with her family and friends, was casual and did not expect anything in return...not even marriage...do you realize what she would face at home? If she cares about you then just to be with you, she would have to come up with something................................something like a label. :)
A white chick doesnt have to deal with that. She can date you, never explain anything to anyone and no one will even blink an eye.
amazing!!
Nobel prize
very very true!!!!!what if women tend to call it "friends"(cuz they lie)
They do that all the time, they want men around them, and the come up most stupidest explanations!!! ohhhhhhhh he is this and he is that.