Re: Girls should just accept to be the second wife.
Still, the kids will have to go through the trauma of divorce. There are all sorts of family issues, not to mention the fact that divorce in Islam is the worst deed that is actually allowed. This person I’m talking about, I’ve heard horror stories about his wife from my mother (who’s known them a long time). I have met her myself and she always seemed a bit nuts to me so it came as no surprise that the guy had married a second time. For starters, his arranged marriage with this lady was a sham, she lied about her age and it turned out that she was actually much older than him. She was a housewife and yet would not cook or clean for him, he had to do it all on his own and was putting in double shifts at home and work. Despite that he chose to stay married to her for the sake of his kids, provided her with a home and willingly took on the expense when it would have been quite easy to divorce her. I fully support a second marriage in this case.
I have also seen another incident of second marriage in my family (my dad’s first cousin). The guy ran away from home, had an affair and married that girl. When he eventually came back he said he married her because his first wife was fat and unattractive. Now that is the kind of second marriage that needs to be condemned, because even if one doesn’t like their wife there is a better way of going about it than to have an affair and abandon your wife and kids.