Re: GIRLS!! Non-Virgin Bride DILEMMA!!
ok im sorry but this is retarded.
even if a girl is a virgin, it doesn't mean that there will be blood on the bedsheet the first time she has sex, let alone any blood coming out at all. usually when the hymen breaks, some women bleed a moderate amount, some bleed just a bit and some none at all. for someone to say this girl is not a virgin simply because there was no blood on the bedsheets is the same as saying 'humans and dinosaurs coexisted' -sara palin
if this girl doesnt want her to be spouse to know about it, she doesnt have to tell him. its not like the fiance has asked her about her past relations and the extent of them. so she isnt lying to him, she is merely not informing him of an event in her life.
if it will make her more relax/calm tell her to pretend like she feels a lot of pain when she goes to bed with her husband for the first time?
so far in my life i have not heard of anyone checking the bedsheets for blood
even if the man asks her if she has slept with someone before, its her personal choice to tell him about it. if she wants to be with him and thinks that informing him about sleeping with her bf will drive him away then maybe she wouldnt want to tell him. and even if hes open minded doesnt mean hes westernized. personally i dont think its a big deal, people make mistakes all the time. some may not even consider it a mistake. God! Live and Let Live! < that's my motto. if i were in the situation, and i trusted the person, i would tell him because i dont think i could go thru my life hiding such a big part of my life from the one that i love. however, if u dont trust the person, i say dont tell him and call off the whole wedding and cite 'irreconcilable differences' to ur parents as the reason of calling it off.