sadzz, we are talking about desis....
Apparently, you have spent too much time around gora people that you can't and don't understand how desi mind operates. This talk about honesty and open mindedness BS doesn't exist when it comes to issues like this.
You look good writing those kind of things... they are feel good comments that you can write and feel good about your self but sadly very little of it holds any water when other peoples expectations, feelings and traditions are concerned.
If something GOOD is about to happen you DON'T bring something BAD up to ruin it. That is just stupid and foolish and only those who are accustomed to 3 4 5 BFs and GFs before marriage would appreciate that.
I guess peOple just didnt read JL's post clearly that they couldn't understand the thoughts and especially which is highlighted ...
As far as i know my culture well i mean leave off the pathan thingie / qaba-ayli people there are some virgin/NAIK men out there who deserve to b in-partner with naik girls ...
and i vaguely remember i once heard from my friend who told me that there's a hadith saying that Allah has made naik women for naik men and vice e versa baqi Allah knOws better!
and ans. to this post i would agree with jL , mirch and PSquared they have pretty much said enough.....
and at last, we all should always all the time should ask for Allah's forgiveness coz we dont know where we did wrong!
Allah behtar kerei for all of us ...ameen