Girls Marriage during Education

[Paheli00]

Re: Girls Marriage during Education

@geminifromkhi

My friend belonged to a very well to do family, her husband wasnt that well off comparatively. Needless to say it was a love marriage. Her dad had only one condition for accepting the proposal: that her daughter will be allowed to complete her education. This was accepted by the seemingly doting MIL. The university was quite expensive, and her father was going to foot the bill.
My friend didnt even have to lift a finger in her house, but she did everything from mopping to laundry after marriage. Her father also bought them a car. I mean my friend was contributing SO MUCH to the marriage. After the death of her FIL, the MIL completely transformed and asked her to leave university. That is why she refused to look after her grandson, so that his suffering will make my friend leave her education.
As far as day care is concerned, she did ultimately found one. Her own family was in a different city. So now you tell me who is the witch here?

Your friend is still the witch but now its clear that she was raised that way by her family. Rich girl whose parents never made her do anything in their home. She chose to marry a guy knowing that he/his family were not rich. Her father also knew about the lack of money. Why did she get married in the first semester? Why not wait until she was in the last semester or done with degree?

Doing housework isn’t anything special. That’s part of life. I have a full-time job and I do the laundry, mopping etc. You say she bought plenty into the marriage? How? B/C she did housework and her father bought the couple a car? LOL…this is a joke right? Again, given that this was a love marriage, clearly the girl thought that guy was also bringing plenty into the marriage since she chose him herself.

Plenty of people “transform” after a loved one dies. It’s no unusual for peoples personalities to change drastically after a spouse, parent or child dies. The MIL’s husband dies and she changed. But this does NOT make it ok for a woman to allow her baby to be neglected. The very first time that child had a diaper rash b/c of neglect, your friend should have immediately arranged for child care (her family being so rich, she obviously has access to money if she/husband couldn’t afford it).

Parents (mother and fathers) need to take 100% responsibility for the child they created and brought into this world. Its ridiculous to anyone to blame in-laws or another 3rd party for the neglect of their own child.