whats the possible good and bad things.
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depends on the family you are marrying into. if the family supports it then you shouldn't have an issue, if they don't then best of luck!
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There is nothing good about getting married before completing your education.
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husband has to listen for the rest of the life “aisee kia jaldi thi, education tu complete kerney daitey” 
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My mum still recalls her days from late 80s in Lahore.
She was married, and she still had 2 years of education to complete.
My dad's family hadn't had left any woman after my grandmother's death, so she came in, married to my father, who was eldest amongst his brothers.
I was in her lap by the time she was taking her finals, there were occasions where my dad would wait outside exam centre/university in the car, and she would come to see me during breaks.
She had to study, do the cooking (they had maids), look for my chacha rishtas, do other stuff all at the same time.
It was not easy for her, but she recalls it as a happy memory. That's one side of the picture, but perspective is old, from late 80s, so might not help alot!
Today! you can even freeze the semester/program, if you need to. Hell yeah baby! :)
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It's messy and most in laws will make promises they don't know how to keep.
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Depends on the girl, husband and family. If everyone is understanding and cooperative, it's great; otherwise, it can be hell.
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Depends on your in laws. Sometimes they promise they will support you, but purposely distract/disturb you after marriage to make sure you dont get time to study.
I hate this idea anyway. When you get married, your husband sholdnt have to worry about your exams, he didnt marry you to baby sit you.
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really.
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Not a good idea, there are too many distractions. One of my friends only had 6 months left n she just scraped through her course, never attended classes n only just handed in assignments.
Another friend who also had about a year left, had to make breakfast in the mornings and cook lunch before she left in the mornings then cook dinner in the evening when she got home, she had a MIL and nands who could have done all this, obviously they managed b4 she married into the family, on top of that she got pregnant, so was 6 months when she was doing her finals.
Although I have seen it work too, have a cousins daughter who started uni after she got married an inlaws fully support her, expect nothing from her, she is treated in same way as daughters in the family.
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I dont think anyone, guy or girl, should get married before they are done with everything. Get educated, get a job, do some savings and then get married.
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Can you ever say that you are done with education? Shouldn't it be a life long process?
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Can you ever say that you are done with education? Shouldn't it be a life long process?
Learning is a life long process. But I think we can all agree that formal education has an end for 99.9% of people (men and women). After all, how many people do you know who take classes on regular basis throughout their 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's etc. Of course, this does NOT include professions like doctors where continuing formal education is a requirement for licensing etc.
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Learning is a life long process. But I think we can all agree that formal education has an end for 99.9% of people (men and women). After all, how many people do you know who take classes on regular basis throughout their 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's etc. Of course, this does NOT include professions like doctors where continuing formal education is a requirement for licensing etc.
isn't learning also education?
if we are talking about getting different educational certificates, when is education completed? bachelors? Masters? Doctorate?
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isn't learning also education?
if we are talking about getting different educational certificates, when is education completed? bachelors? Masters? Doctorate?
Education involves some type of structured learning environment where the person gets some sort of degree/certificate. Learning can be education but it doesn't have to be. Here we're talking about education meaning actually going to school and obtaining some type of degree.
As for when is "education" complete for an individual, that's up to that person to decide. I think majority of us will agree that people (men and women) should get a minimum Bachelor's degree for income purposes (and yes, I do understand people can make money without it). Plenty of people choose to get a master's, PhD's, M.D., J.D. etc. It all depends on what that person's goal is. For example, if a woman wants to work in marketing, usually a Bachelor's degree is sufficient. However, if she wants to be an accountant, lawyer, nurse etc....then further formal education is required.
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Well, support or no support from in-laws, studying after marriage becomes way more difficult because you have added responsibilities. Better to do it before getting hitched
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Depends on the support system.
Residency - that's an exception because that's training on the job - people who are married and in stable marriages with a supportive husband do great in residency. Emotional health is key during that time period.
However I've seen that the women who get married in residency - often the in laws pull them out and make them go crazy such that they have to leave the program or not even apply for a program to begin with. MD degree goes to waste. Sadly that's more common than the first scenario.
So key is : know your inlaws and understand that people make all kinds of promises upfront that they will honor your educational goals and then they don't.
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But if you're asking about college - get that done and over with before getting married. Too many unpar women in pakistani communities raising families and their stupidity knows no boundaries. Please don't end up like that.
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One thing that no one has mentioned is that if you are in the middle of a program and get married out of state, you may not get all your credits transferred or your new state may not have the program or the prestigious college you have gained admission to. If you want to continue education in your home state then it most likely would have to be a long distance relationship for a while. May not work for everyone.
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I know of one friend who got married in second year, and has now graduated, she worked and studied at the same time. Also, point to consider that she and her husband didn't live with in-laws, so that worked in her favor, mA