Girls Marriage during Education

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Re: Girls Marriage during Education

@PyariCgudia

Thank you for a realistic frikkin reply !!

People think that managing a baby and household is effortless, and people can be in two places at once. You can’t be in school and managing a newborn at the same exact time. At any given minute of the day, you have to be in one place. Med school now requires not only classes and straight A’s with stellar GPA’s, but a resume that is pages and pages long. Endless leadership, volunteer work, and publishing research papers. Very difficult to do with a tot on your hip. And your husband will presumably be working too, so it’s lip service = yes, darling I support your efforts in school. That’s great, who is changing the diapers and feeding the kid and cooking at home then? Someone has to take over those actual tasks for this to work.

You’re in a small select group if your mother and mother in-law are able to handle these tasks for you. Most MIL’s will not do it - they have their own problems and responsibilities.

It is very easy for these online trolls to say “Oh it can be managed”. Very easy to write those words.

I am single, no family, no kids, and with my doctoring job, I can’t even manage to keep up with my own laundry and I’M ONE PERSON IN THIS APARTMENT.

My family, alhumdillah, was super-supportive. My mom took care of my son when i was in school. She always offered to cook/help out at home for me.. but that was an issue for my husband. He was willing to have her help in child-care but “this is your house - your responibility”… at that point i’d fought enough and was so tired with school + extra-curriculars + baby.. i gave up.

Anyway… point being, it’s very rare that all these things line up (husband + ILs + family) and cohesivly help a woman who is a mother+wife to pursue higher education. If it’s not one thing it’s another.