Do you have any idea how small the pool of guys is at work for most people who work outside of PK/India/ME?
I work with NO DESI guys, so forget about Muslim ones. My Sr. Director keeps trying to set me up with a Hindu colleague (who works in another department - he’s super cute btw), but that ain’t gonna go anywhere! Oh and I work for a large company that has 40,000 employees nationally, and several thousand in the same city block as me.
Honestly, if a girl wants to meet a guy on her own, try and meet them during uni - opportunities to meet Muslim guys after that dwindle significantly!
It depends on the type of guy you're talking to. SOme guys are happy to keep it islamic and only talk/meet for coffee without it turning into a relationship - it IS possible to talk to each other for some time and keep it a little more 'halal'
Then there's the other types of guys who think the only way to know if they want to marry someone is to go out with her first
The thing is. its really hard not to be in a relationship when finding your own rishta...
You cant date a day for 2 weeks and then ask to meet his parents :/
My SIL told my brother from the start she was only going to 'see' him with the intention of marriage.. Obviously this isn't possible with a lot of non-desis but shows it can be done..
A mutual friend had given them each others contact details and it all went from there..
Nice suggestions. Food for thought. To get to know Muslim guys while in Uni and to let a guy you are going to see that you are only seeing him with the intention of marriage. I like that. :)
My SIL told my brother from the start she was only going to 'see' him with the intention of marriage.. Obviously this isn't possible with a lot of non-desis but shows it can be done..
A mutual friend had given them each others contact details and it all went from there..
^Inspiron, my sister did the same and she got engaged a few weeks ago. I wouldn't necessarily say you ONLY meet guys at uni, some of those guys aren't in the frame of mind to think of getting married cos they need to mature a bit more.
Not everything is either dating or just arranged married, our generations are beginning to find a balance between their religious beliefs and their own needs It's not that uncommon anymore, I don't think for girls to find their own rishta and i dont think it's such a bad thing either
^Inspiron, my sister did the same and she got engaged a few weeks ago. I wouldn't necessarily say you ONLY meet guys at uni, some of those guys aren't in the frame of mind to think of getting married cos they need to mature a bit more.
Not everything is either dating or just arranged married, our generations are beginning to find a balance between their religious beliefs and their own needs It's not that uncommon anymore, I don't think for girls to find their own rishta and i dont think it's such a bad thing either
I agree with what you're saying Maddy, but the only thing is the opportunity and venues to meet new people dwindles after uni and that's a fact.
For me I met NO ONE at uni, I hope I will at work iA when I do start work it well have 4 months one place 4 months another place so might work out better?
(And aren't hospitals like the perfect place to find a rishta? Practically every other doctor I come across seems to be Indian or Pakistani.. I reckon you will meet 'the one' at work :D)
NO DESI guys, so forget about Muslim ones. My Sr. Director keeps trying to set me up with a Hindu colleague (who works in another department - he’s super cute btw), but that ain’t gonna go anywhere! Oh and I work for a large company that has 40,000 employees nationally, and several thousand in the same city block as me.
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