Re: Girls in the west, after shaadi want to move out
Shukar hai not everyone in our culture does this. Otherwise i can so see desi parents living in "edhi foundation" or other elderly homes. Why? because their kids could not take care of them....
*sigh
Imagine if you only have one brother and he follows the same path meaning goes away from his parents for good. Your parents are living all by themselves - Taking care of each other- how would you feel?
forget that...
You become a parent and you have married your kids off and they are all living by themselves happy in their married life. But no one is there to take care of you how would you feel?
Raatkirani - women does marry the entire khandan now we can either accept that or let it go and face suffering....
*sigh
Why must you think to extremes? All I'm saying is that the new couple deserves at least 6 months of total privacy. That's all. Nothing about abandoning parents. It won't kill mom and dad, if beta decides to live on their own for a year to get established in a marriage. Most parents didn't stop their kids from going away for college, why is marriage so different, especially if the son and DIL intend on caring for the elderly parents when the need arises? If you have an active 50 year old mom and dad, they don't need to have a son to care for them yet
My mother has encouraged my brother to live apart with his wife when he gets married. We have no problem with that. I suppose our family ties are strong enough that we know if the need arises, my brothers will care for our parents.
I have a young son (4), and I look forward to the day that he gets married. I would never pressure him to stay with me. My newlywed days were so wonderful, and I would wish the same on him and his wife. When I get too old to take care of myself, then I'm sure he'd have me move in with him.