Girls complaining about parents not listening to them

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I have come across numerous stories on gs and seen parents not listening to their daughters and getting them married to people who they don’t like.
At times I don’t understand that why do they complain later on, saying “Oh parents did such and such, aab ki karoon?” Tab akal kahan gayi thi ? Couldn’t u put ur foot down then?

Use your common sense, be stubborn do whatever u can and just refuse. There’s no point in crying later on.

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lol..plus parents ko masla kiya hai apki apsand se yeh bhi puchna chahyee..:P..lol..unkey point of view se bhid ekhna chahyee:)..and den aqal istemaal kerni chahyee:)

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Parents agar dhondna chahain to theek hai but koi insaan ho na, koi village ka mota Punjabi 46 year old uncle to na ho :cb: Agar larki nahin kerna chahti shadi to refuse keray dil main baat na rakhay :snooty:

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completely agree

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and when parents like completely emotionally blackmail you? yes I know that parents shouldn't do that but in some cases it does happen. And then what? Can you still refuse?

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Well tell them that u will marry someone who they choose but not that particular person. Simple :)

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Parents make mistakes. They are human beings and they are fallible. They may generally have your best interest at heart, but sometimes their insecurities, fears, and greed get the best of them, and it brings out the worst in them. And I've never seen parents act worse than when their children are marriageable. It really brings out the snobbiness, narrowmindedness, fears, etc.

Sure you should respect your parents. But if they're wrong and if they're talking like idiots, don't buy into it. Talk to them. Tell them you don't agree. Tell them you're disappointed to see them with these hangups. And then figure things out together.

And the end, it is your life and you have to deal with the decisions that are made for it. So you better be able to stand up for them.

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I’m not saying that we shouldn’t listen to them. It’s just that at times some parents decide to get their educated daughters (born and bred here) married to uneducated guys from a village. I have seen this happen and it horrifies me.
It’s best to tell parents really early that you don’t want to marry such and such kinda people. I guess that should avoid problems.

In my case I already have told my parents that getting married to a cousin is out of the question coz I have always seen them as my brothers :rotfl: TRust me that works :cb: (My cousins are educated but the idea of getting married to someone in the family is sick)

Thankfully my parents aren’t too strict or persistent so they would never force me and are against the concept of kids from here getting married from people in villages.

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^people in villages?

who in today's day and age gets their kids married to a villager?! someone born and bred in cities, yes, but they don't qualify as 'villagers'.. and i don't see any issues with marrying someone whos not born and brought up abroad. people click, regardless of their 'fobbiness' or 'abcd-ness'- there are many successful marriages. if you don't want to marry one yourself then tell your parents you don't want to go down that road but i hate when people degrade 'fobs' like they are from another planet.

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And as for girls complaining about forced engagements/marriages, everyone's situation is different. Not everyone has understanding or lenient parents and there are circumstances that can make you give into their wishes despite of everything. Raising your voice after or going against it is not whining or being foolish, I think it's being strong and realizing you cannot waste your life with someone you just cannot connect with.

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Parents bhi barre zaalim hote hain, if you like it or not what I say, but that is the truth. Why is the kid always the bad, always the wrong one?

I don't consider myself being someone special and doing better than my parents, but sometimes when you think it's wrong, it's simply wrong! My father always says "meyn tera pyo waan ke toon mera pyo hain?"...you just shut up, you don't want, but u have because uff naheen karna, baat maan ni hai, mar bi jao maan ni hai and I don't consider these people as my parents then, I consider them as enemies, as evils...

what are you supposed to do and this is why I don't understand my religion sometimes, this hurts me when I say but parents are treated as saints even if they ARE NOT infront of you...

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So when your mom gave you birth after keeping you in for 9 months, being there for you constantly, both your parents teaching you how to walk, feeding you, clothing you and what not UNTIL you were able to do those on your own... they were being selfish and evil? I can't stand people like you.

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LOl.MR SHAY>...Yes our parents gave us BIRTh and everything...but sometimes woh over possessive hojatay hain..and humaari care kerna nahi chordtay tab tak jab tak hum burdhay na hojayain..lol..and usually woha pnay experience and culture k hisaab se decisions letey hain..and bachay newzamanay main pallay hotay hain so they think differently...saray minds ek jaisya nahi hosakhtay.
anyways..
my point was.
parents ki suno per agar woh galat hain ya islam k khilaaf koi baat ker rahay hain tu usmain unka saath na do..baaqi apni SAARI responsibilities puri keroo..and shaadi ekrney ka haqq humara hai..aur uskay baray main faisla kerney ka bhii.
Tu agar koi pasand hai tu zaroor aprents ko bataya jana chahyee mashwara laina chahyee ...unkay hukam ki respect kerni chahyee...likan phir bhi lagay k u r rigth den do what u feel is right..coz at the end jo bhi hoga uskay zimmadaar khali hum hoongaye..

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MR NUMB:

BTw islam main Jahan per woh sahi hain wahan tak baat maani hai....per HAQQ AND ALLAH comes first tu if u feel woh zyaati ekr rahain hain tu samajhaoo pyaar se...nahi mantay tu woh keroo jo sahi lagay:)...and baad main maafi maang lo dil dukhanay k liyee...per most of the time sabar kerna chahyee:)..chotay faislon main:)

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THis is exactly my point, why raise your voice later? If u marry someone then stay with them. There's no point in blaming parents later saying "Dekho yeh kia hogaya bla bla bla."Why raise your voice later? If you couldn't say anything at that time then why cry later on? Tab zuban nahin hoti kia? Why would u even want to marry someone who you don't want to, then realise you can't connect with them and **then **leave them? Isn't it better if you think about that before?

I know not everyone has lenient parents but why not try talking to them. Whine, cry do whatever it takes, if you know that there is no way u will click with the person they have chosen for u :)

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:smack: yeh kaisa mashwara hai :ast: Parents ki choice agar pasand nahin hai then tell them keh kia problem hai. Unhain kaho keh bla bla type ka insaan hargiz na ho. Agar khud koi insaan introduce kerwana hai, go for it but obviously if parents say NO then its no. What’s the point in hurting them?** Hamari ek ek sans un ki mauhtaaj hai** :slight_smile: P.S. Agar woh atak jain keh nahin isi 57 saal ke uncle se shadi hogi :stuck_out_tongue: then u be stubborn too, dekhna Kambal khud hi chup ho jaen gai :cb:

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i think mkd is right

cuz i have seen girls whinninh that we r girls we cand and cudnt do anything!

i mean y cant u do anything??

dont u have a tongue in ur mouth to say that i dont want to!!?

i heard a girl saying that if my parents will want me to get married to sum1 i dont like i will start crying!

i was like...........................literally dumbstruck!!!

i was thinking ke dont u have a mouth to speak cant u just simply say that u dont want to and refuse

y whining like a idiot!!??

and most of the time girls dont even let their parent know that they dont want to and help making her own and the poor guys life a living hell!!

y??

so i dont think blaming parents is a good idea

see if u did everything u cud not to get married

but no they just go and point their finger right at their parents and blame them

i dont think we r powerless just because we r girls!!

so y girls still think like that??

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If you act like a passive, irresponsible, little doll, that's how you'll be treated.

If you let people treat you badly and walk all over, why should they change their ways?

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I think you need to read the posts again sis :) A villager is not someone who's born or bred in the city. I did not say that :)No one's degrading them either, if u want to think of it that way then what can I say :) Many girls are forced into marrying people who they don't like, guys who are old enough to be their uncles or even uneducated ppl. from the villages. Some of my close friends have been thru this. Therefore, I'm not making any of this up. There are alot of ppl. out there who get their kids married to villagers. A really close friend of mine will be getting married in July to a perfect example of what I've just explained :)

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kuriyo ..shaddi zindagi ka faisila hai sooch samaje k
karna.:5:..lol

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